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    surprisedphil Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 4, 2013, 09:58 AM
    Extremely confused.
    So this isn't a relationship but I want it to be.

    So here is my situation. There is this girl that I like a lot. We have been friends for over a year now and thing were going really well. Now all of a sudden things start to go a little differently. I haven't been coming off strong or have been harassing her or anything I definitely give her space. She does know that I have feelings for her but I hold back on the because I haven't had the chance to see if it could possibly be more. About a week ago I asked her to hang out nothing crazy just asked if she wanted to go for a walk or something. She was up for it and then the next day she changed her mind which is fine. So I asked her if maybe she wanted to do something else and never got a reply so I left it alone. Then I sent her a message Friday and asked how her day was going and again no reply...

    My question is.. What do I do?! I like her so much and I have the entire time I've known her. It's driving me insane! It's pretty obvious I'm close to the danger zone (friend zone) but I'm going away for college for two years soon and I don't want to go without at least seeing her before.

    Please help me.
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    Jun 4, 2013, 10:02 AM
    If you aren't getting replies after several attempts to get together, it doesn't sound like she is interested in a relationship.
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    Jun 4, 2013, 10:03 AM
    "It's driving me insane!" - You should allow others to have that kind of control over you, potential girlfriend or not.

    She obviously doesn't see you in the same way and doesn't want to encourage it by going further than just friends. You need to accept this and move on. Plus if you are going to college, you will have a very good selection to choose from. But honestly don't go nuts over someone until you know that person inside and out.
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    Jun 4, 2013, 10:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    "It's driving me insane!" - You should allow others to have that kind of control over you, potential girlfriend or not.

    She obviously doesn't see you in the same way and doesn't want to encourage it by going further than just friends. You need to accept this and move on. Plus if you are going to college, you will have a very good selection to choose from. But honestly don't go nuts over someone until you know that person inside and out.
    Haha driving me insane is a figure of speech its just very confusing.
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    Jun 4, 2013, 10:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by surprisedphil View Post
    haha driving me insane is a figure of speech its just very confusing.
    It shouldn't be really. She has been pretty clear with her messages, or lack there of. Wait for college. You will forget this one when you really fall for someone.
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    Jun 4, 2013, 10:06 AM
    You sent her messages now the ball is in her court. Leave it alone and see if she sends you a message or calls you.
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