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    Jun 1, 2013, 11:55 PM
    How do we get our friendship back to normal
    A few days ago me and my ex were sitting on the bus together. We were just talking when all of a sudden she put her arm on my shoulder. Not knowing what to do, I decided to put my arm on hers. She said she wanted to do something but didn't know how the other person would react. I told her I had a gut feeling that they wouldn't care. For the past couple days coming close to her stop we would just stare at each other in an awkward silence. That same thing was happening today. Just a few minutes from her stop she said "you know where this is going right?" So I replied, "I have a pretty good idea." Right before we came to her stop she asked me if it would always come down to this. We both started to lean in and the next thing you know we were kissing. Ever since that evening any conversation we've had has been short and awkward and that's only on the rare occasion that we actually talk to each other. We don't sit by each other or anything. Could somebody tell me how to fix our friendship?
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    Jun 2, 2013, 03:21 AM
    'She said she wanted to do something but didn't know how the other person would react.'
    What person? Her boyfriend? He would react like most do.
    'I told her I had a gut feeling that they wouldn't care.'
    Sounds more like wishful thinking from your heart rather than your gut.

    She's holding all the cards if she has a boyfriend, so all you can do is wait. You can tell her how you feel, but be very cautious about it.
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    Jun 2, 2013, 08:10 AM
    You are 13 - shouldn't this be on a teen thread?
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    Jun 2, 2013, 10:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    'She said she wanted to do something but didn't know how the other person would react.'
    What person? Her boyfriend? He would react like most do.
    'I told her I had a gut feeling that they wouldn't care.'
    Sounds more like wishful thinking from your heart rather than your gut.

    She's holding all the cards if she has a boyfriend, so all you can do is wait. You can tell her how you feel, but be very cautious about it.
    She doesn't have a boyfriend, but now I'm dating somebody else and I don't know what to do. Any other advice?

    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You are 13 - shouldn't this be on a teen thread?
    How would you know that I'm 13
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    Jun 2, 2013, 11:07 AM
    You have a girlfriend but you are kissing the ex on the bus? Sure no one will notice or say anything, but you better stop the kissing and things may go back to normal eventually. If the new girl doesn't get mad.

    You are chasing after way to many girls at once don't get confused.
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    Jun 2, 2013, 11:12 AM
    "How would you know that I'm 13"

    I'm psychic.

    You sound like someone in his early teens.

    And you posted your age on another thread.
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    Jun 2, 2013, 07:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    You have a girlfriend but you are kissing the ex on the bus? Sure no one will notice or say anything, but you better stop the kissing and things may go back to normal eventually. if the new girl doesn't get mad.

    You are chasing after way to many girls at once don't get confused.
    I didn't have a girlfriend when we kissed. My girlfriend asked me out 2 days ago. Me and my ex kissed almost a week ago. I can't say that you don't make some valid points but I'm not "chasing after girls". You people act like I just walk down the hall asking out every girl I see. I said I like a girl, not that there was a 100% chance of me asking her the second she came into earshot. And I swear if one more person tells me tat I'm too young to date I will punch somebody in the face.

    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    "How would you know that I'm 13"

    I'm psychic.

    You sound like someone in his early teens.

    And you posted your age on another thread.
    Glad we got that that problem out of the way. Now I just have to deal with the fact that within 24 hours of registering on this site 50 people already hate me. It's such a nice world out there.
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    Jun 2, 2013, 08:05 PM
    Relax, you are too young to date if that's what you want to call it. I mean sitting on a school bus and kissing girls isn't dating, its not dinner and a movie. Its just at your age you are hormone driven and trying to figure it out.

    I get it you youngsters want it to be all serious grown up, and stuff, and it is to you, but in a few years things will change and the decision that drive your actions will have more consequences than they do now.

    Have your fun, nobody hates you, But no need to get carried away and all hyped up and threaten people. Stay cool dude and in control of yourself because you are just getting started on your road to young manhood.

    Like I said, in a few years you will learn what REAL dating is and look back and know what we are talking about. For now don't let those hormones make you do the wrong thing and cause some hurt feelings to the girls you are chasing.
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    Jun 3, 2013, 05:40 AM
    Found your age in your post about suicide: "I've though of suicide since I was in second grade, and I'm thirteen now"
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    Jun 9, 2013, 03:34 PM
    Wouldn't worry talk to her and just set things straight first figure out what you want and if she is worth it I mean have you missed talking to her? And if you have but just want to be friends then just tell her be like it was a mistake and I'm sorry but I don't want us to stop being friends so can we just start over? Let me know how it goes, good luck! Xx
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