[JayJay payday]

I have a great girl.. she is not materialistic and only wants what's good for me. I used to sell drugs and have endless money. I think I kind of filled the void of love with money. I have 3 kids by another girl and I don't think I was ever in true love. I was sticking it out for my kids cause I thought its was the right thing to do as a man and father but found out is was not healthy for me her most of all my kids.

Now I'm with a girl I grew up with that was quiet and not most popular in Jr high but I always had interest in and knew she'd be a bomb shell in her 20s and 30s so on. She's smart very pretty and just a girl that tries real hard to do right and be not like the rest of the **** ups we grew up with. Me I'm doing a lot better now I am not selling dope doing dope and realizing true love is not bought and that girls are for more than setting in my passenger seat looking good I was very materialistic and she has showed me true love and real issues real people have other than prison or worrying about getting robbed for money or dope. Its nice not looking over my shoulder all the time but sucks not having endless money but she is worth all the money and partying getting high and being the man in the world.

She has 2 kids and they were my kids good friends. I feel like she deserves all the thing I bought and did for others just showing off and I don't got it like that anymore I guess it hurts I wasted my life doings things for b****es I didn't love and showing off for dope fiend hoes that could care less for love only money and dope. And now I am with my true love and best friend and I am living like a lame or a average Joe. I know if I sell dope she will be lost too the game or me going too prison and she don't deserve all that but she does deserve all the finest things in life and maybe I like the finer things and am having withdrawal from the high life and all the matériel things but never enough to lose my baby girl.

Any good advice?

[talaniman]

Stay on the path of good honest behavior and you will get use to and adjust to living the honest life, money or not. Deserves got nothing to do with it and it's the hard honest work you do that's the whole key.

[joypulv]

So, average Joe, what do you do for a living, and does she work or take care of the kids?
All this philosophizing is fine, and you are clear about love, but money is still the bottom line.
Many couples are happy with very little money, even if only one works, or even if the woman makes more than the man, and so on...
If she is happy with you, and you have made this choice to appreciate her, what is bugging you?
Of course most of us think back to money we wasted, or callow shallow years of our youth we wasted, but we don't dwell on it. Because that is what youth is, and "youth is wasted on the young."*
G. B. Shaw