[Notalwaysthere]

Hi. :) Well first off, I'm 18 years old and a female. Last summer I met another girl and was instantly attracted to her, which was kind of new to me because I never really thought about dating girls. We talked and a few weeks now and then after the night we met. At the same time there was another guy in the picture with whom I was dating, but nothing serious, I broke it off with him after a week got with my girlfriend.

Everything was great, we talked, laughed, saw each other all the time. It was something I never felt before. This went on for about 5-6 months, then all the sudden, out of nowhere, I started to question my feelings for her. I was confused and found myself being deeply sad, just not knowing how to go about things considering she was my first real relationship. I finally talked to her about it after being confused for a week. That night was full of tears and heartache. We ended up breaking it off that night. I cried the whole night and the whole next day.

Two days later we got back. To make long story short we had our break ups, and getting back because of me being confused. We hit a year last Saturday. I still love and care for her but not really sure my feelings are there anymore. I miss her when she's gone, and I keep asking myself why I'm always so confused, I want us to last and be together. I keep thinking about why my feelings changed all the sudden, and I starting to think that maybe me losing my hair and gaining weight around the 5 months of us being together could've been something to do with it. Also when we were a month into the relationship I got really drunk and kind of cheated on her, and she asked me if I ever cheated and that not to be scared to tell her, but I said no, afraid that she would break it off.

I'm sorry this is so long but I don't know what to do or think anymore. I really don't want to break up with her. She is beautiful, kind and just an amazing person who would do anything for me. Please help!

[mmresd]

Seems like guilt is catching up with you. If you are not sure, it is better to be alone to figure things out. Break up, work on other aspects of your life, you don't need all this at the moment, it is clear that you are not ready for a relationship at this point in your life. Figure things out when you are single, have some fun, love will come later, without this much doubt, remember not to cheat next time so that this doesn't happen to you again. You seem like a nice person, it takes someone insensitive to be able to cheat and not feel anything.

[jay-stud]

You really need to be open with her. Cheating is wrong period; don't keep something like that away from anyone because it will catchup to u ; just like it is now. For these actions she probably will question everything u tell her . You love her and it will work but I think the guilt is cathing up to u. good luck

[Notalwaysthere]

Thank you for your guys advice, I really want to keep this relationship going, its just for some reason there's a voice in the back of my mind saying to just let it go. I don't know what to feel anymore:/

[talaniman]

Everything was great, we talked, laughed, saw each other all the time. It was something I never felt before. This went on for about 5-6 months, then all the sudden, out of nowhere, I started to question my feelings for her. I was confused and found myself being deeply sad, just not knowing how to go about things considering she was my first real relationship. I finally talked to her about it after being confused for a week. That night was full of tears and heartache. We ended up breaking it off that night. I cried the whole night and the whole next day.

Its your first real relationship, and after a year you maybe wondering where its going and what you want from it. That's pretty normal to have these questions after a year. Because its time to honestly talk and figure out what this is all about, and the levelof commitment that you tomake.

That takes some honest communications. Not fear of making mistakes. Keep it real,and work through your confusion honestly. That first real relationship is a hard one to let go of for sure. But it doesn't help to start hiding that confusion,or not admit that you are curious about exploring, and experimenting on your own.

Can't do that by holding on to the relationship can you. We all face that choice, but can only say give the relationship 100%, or get out of it. Confused feelings is no excuse for half stepping,and hiding stuff. That's not love.

[Notalwaysthere]

Its your first real relationship, and after a year you maybe wondering where its going and what you want from it. Thats pretty normal to have these questions after a year. Because its time to honestly talk and figure out what this is all about, and the levelof commitment that you tomake.

That takes some honest communications. Not fear of making mistakes. Keep it real,and work thru your confusion honestly. That first real relationship is a hard one to let go of for sure. But it doesn't help to start hiding that confusion,or not admit that you are curious about exploring, and experimenting on your own.

Can't do that by holding on to the relationship can you. We all face that choice, but can only say give the relationship 100%, or get out of it. Confused feelings is no excuse for half stepping,and hiding stuff. Thats not love.

Thank you, this really opened my eyes. Just because I'm confused or made a few mistakes doesn't give me the right to be afraid to love her.