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ZiggiZaggi · Mar 13, 2007, 09:31 PM

My girlfriend broke it off with me about 3 weeks ago and I haven't talked to her since the break up phone call. She told me she still likes me and that it hurts her so bad to do it but she had to, to get her life sorted out. Today she told her cousin (who is close to my family) to tell me she said hi. This kind of came out of nowhere because we hadn't made any contact at all the past 3 weeks. Does she want me to call her and talk or something? Or was she just being friendly?

I wish she would've just said nothing because I was getting over her. Now I'm confused on what to do. She is going in for a pap exam for her HPV on Thursday, so should I call her tomorrow and wish her luck and give her support? Maybe that's what she wants.

Please help me.

JoeCanada76 · Mar 13, 2007, 09:54 PM

Do nothing. No contact. She is an ex. Do not call. Leave it be.

Joe

TrueFaith · Mar 13, 2007, 09:55 PM

Hey dude my advice stay strong :)

In this she broke it off with you.. you got to leave her alone. If she wants to contact you let her do it.. don't let it be threw people.. maybe she wants you to pine over her.. that would seem the only reason why she would do that... don't contact her. She will probable end up contacting you later on.. let her sort her self out, and you get on with your life as well :)..

Letting someone we love go can be the hardiest thing in the world.. but if you love them enough you will have the strength to

Hope it works out man :)

ZiggiZaggi · Mar 13, 2007, 10:02 PM

I don't know. This HPV test is going to determine if she has cancer or not. Don't you think it would be mature of me to call and wish her the best? It would show that I remember the date and that I still care for her.

JoeCanada76 · Mar 13, 2007, 10:03 PM

She is the one that asked for a break. Stick with the rules bud. Nothing you say or do not say now will make a difference in the outcome of her tests. Let her call you.

Joe

TrueFaith · Mar 13, 2007, 10:08 PM

I agree with Jes man I know how much you want to call her but don't.. I know it hurts. But trust me you call her and nothing will change. It will just make you feel weak.. imagen if she goes ohh what are you doing calling! Don't hold onto the hope that she will get back with you becaue you rememberd when she was going in for a scan..

If anything it will make her think HuH! I thought he would have called.. I wonder if he is really over me. And the seed of doubt comes in. and will probable make her think about you more.

But you got to do this for you.. not calling her helps you out.. its not a game to win her back or anything like that.. leave it alone for a bit :) its tough but try

ZiggiZaggi · Mar 13, 2007, 10:12 PM

I'm not trying to win her back right now. I'm being a nice caring guy, because that's just how I am. But I understand where you guys are coming from. I won't call and let her get through it herself. If she really wanted me there she wouldn't have broken it off.

I'm thinking her saying hi was supposed to coax me into calling her, but I won't. She can call me if she ever needs me.

Pakatababe · Mar 14, 2007, 12:38 AM

Originally Posted by ZiggiZaggi

My girlfriend broke it off with me about 3 weeks ago and I haven't talked to her since the break up phone call. She told me she still likes me and that it hurts her so bad to do it but she had to, to get her life sorted out. Today she told her cousin (who is close to my family) to tell me she said hi. This kind of came out of nowhere because we hadn't made any contact at all the past 3 weeks. Does she want me to call her and talk or something? Or was she just being friendly?

I wish she would've just said nothing because I was getting over her. Now I'm confused on what to do. She is going in for a pap exam for her HPV on Thursday, so should I call her tomorrow and wish her luck and give her support? Maybe that's what she wants.

Please help me.

I am so sorry to have to disagree with everyone's answers but I'm a woman and my opinion, don't call her but if you can text message or send an email, do that. Tell her hope everything works out for her and that if she ever needed a friend, you'll be there for her. Just let her know because what if her results was desvasting and she's unsure if she can call you because you didn't let her know that you'll be there as a friend. Just be clear that you're there for her as a friend.

talaniman · Mar 14, 2007, 05:03 AM

I'm thinking her saying hi was supposed to coax me into calling her, but I won't. She can call me if she ever needs me.

You read way too much into a simple hello through a third party. Leave her alone as she can call anytime she misses you. Move on and stop seeing friendship around every corner. The more you dwell on it, the more you convince yourself that you will be back in some capacity or another, so leave this alone.

ZiggiZaggi · Mar 14, 2007, 07:38 PM

Originally Posted by Pakatababe

I am so sorry to have to disagree with everyone's answers but I'm a woman and my personal opinion, don't call her but if you can text message or send an email, do that. Tell her hope everything works out for her and that if she ever needed a friend, you'll be there for her. Just let her know because what if her results was desvasting and she's unsure if she can call you because you didn't let her know that you'll be there as a friend. Just be clear that you're there for her as a friend.

That's what I don't want to happen. She's always been a depressed person and I'm worried she might try to hurt herself if the news is bad.

ZiggiZaggi · Mar 15, 2007, 08:26 PM

Can I get more opinions on this? She took the test today and didn't call me... I was one of the few people she told about it so I wasn't sure if I should just be there and ask how it went or whatnot. It's not a matter of getting back together, it's just me being a nice guy in a situation where someone needs another person there. I don't want her to have cancer and have to go through it alone.

talaniman · Mar 15, 2007, 08:33 PM

Zig if she wanted or needed you there she would have called.

mrsmoz · Mar 16, 2007, 02:10 AM

If I was in your ex girlfriends shoes I would really appritiate a call or a text saying hope evrything went OK, I'm here as a friend for you if u need 1!! Best of luck x

Jiser · Mar 16, 2007, 02:55 AM

No contact.

s_cianci · Mar 16, 2007, 07:13 AM

I'd not call her nor contact her at all. Obviously your concern for her medical condition is justified but don't use that as a reason to do what's not good. Remember, she broke up with you and you were right not to contact her so go right on not contacting her. If you really want to know about her medical condition you can go through her cousin just like she did. Just tell the cousin that you wish her well and leave it at that.