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    Jul 20, 2012, 03:32 PM
    I love my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I want to be with him anymore.
    I have been in this relationship for about 2 yrs. Now. But before him I was married over 9 yrs. To a person I thought he was the one forever. In my previous marriage I had two beautiful kids with him. I guess that relation failed due to we got married way to young and I got pregnant at 18. The last two yrs. Of my last marriage, my exhusband got really violent with me that I felt suffocated in that relationship I finally said enough and I left him.

    Being a single young mother was hard working full time and paying bills and going to school. I was a waitress at a restaurant went I met my boyfriend. He was just soooo sweet and so respectful, I just, wow, fell for him the minute I lay eyes on him. He kept coming to eat at the restaurant at least 4 times a week. He will leave roses on my car every night, until I finally gave him my number. We started texting every day, morning till night time. Then we started dating.

    For the first 6 months we will just hang out almost every day my kids loved him! He is a very sweet, honest, funny great person. Well after about 6 months he said you’re “the one" for me. Let’s get a place together. You can quit your job just focus on your school. I’ll provide for you and your kids. Our relationship is great. We barely even argue and when we do it’s nothing major. I love him but I don't know if I want to be with him forever like he wants us to be. I don't know why? My whole family loves him my kids do too! So why I am I afraid to be with this one person who is close to being the perfect guy? What else do I want?
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    Jul 20, 2012, 04:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kandy25 View Post
    I been in this relationship for about 2 yrs now. But before him i was married over 9 yrs to a person i thought he was the one forever. In my previous marriage i had two beautiful kids with him. I guess that relation failed due to we got married way to young & i got pregnant at 18. The last two yrs of my last marriage, my ex husband got really violent with me that i felt sufficated in that relationship i finally said enough & i left him. Being a single young mother was hard working full time & paying bills & going to school. I was a waitress at a restaraunt went i met my boyfriend. He was just soooo sweet & so respectful i just, wow felt for him the minute i lay eyes on him. He kept coming to eat at the restaraunt at least 4 times a week. He will leave roses on my car every night. Into i finally gave him my number. We started txting everyday! Morning to night time. Then we started dating. For the first 6 months we will just hang out almost everyday my kids loved him! He is a very sweet, honest, funny great person. Well after about 6 months he said you re " the one" for me. Lets get a place togethere. You can quit your job just focus on your school. Ill provided for you and your kids... our relationshop is great. We barely even argue & when we do its nothing major. i love him but idk if i want to be with him forever like he wants us to be. Idk why?!:/ my whole family loves him my kids do too! So why i am i affraid to be with this one person who is close to being the perfect guy?! What else do i want?!

    Don't commit to someone if you aren't 100% sure and positive.

    It's possible he is the perfect guy - just not for you.
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    Jul 20, 2012, 07:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Don't commit to someone if you aren't 100% sure and positive.

    It's possible he is the perfect guy - just not for you.
    You're probably right. He wants kids of his own & I don't want anymore kids. I guess I what I am more afraid of is to have two relationships that failed. & he is the only man I had brought around my children & family. It's a hard decision. But I have to let go? Idk! It hurts just thinking of it but its going to hurt more if I just keep on doing this to this wonderful guy. Thanks
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    Jul 20, 2012, 08:40 PM
    Maybe you got carried away by those wonderful romantic feelings that are always there in the beginning, and moved to fast with this relationship.

    Maybe the thing to do is start some honest communications instead of arbitrarily making another decision based on feelings and very few facts.

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