[Spelmyrae]

I met my boyfriend at the gym one day. At the time I was with my son's father for 3 years. I was very unhappy with him He cheated on me plenty of times. I was so fed up I met somebody new. Me and my new boyfriend has been together 5 months
Now. He is so good looking and treat
Me so good. He always give me
Compliments and says how pretty I am. We took our relationship to another level. A month in to our relationship he tells me he's falling in
Love with me. I was really falling for him. I was like every girls dream man. I met his mother his kids and also his ex wife. He really does treat me good in every way. The sex life is amazing but when we have sex he asked me to sucks his titties and spank his *** I thought that was very weird in the
Beginning. So our relationship got real strong so I moved out my son's father house and moved with him. But in the back of my mind I still loved my son's father. But me and my new man moved on. He loves my kids and does great with them. We not too long ago went to las vegas for a vacation. We had so much fun out there. He's really into his looks and always looking real good. To include we get our nails and feet done at the same time. Back on that Vegas trip we did a lot of things out that we went to a show it was funny and all but it was a lot of half naked men and women and a transvestite in it. I asked him how did you no about his show and he said he looked it up back a home and he wanted to go. I said okey that's cool. In the show they did some types of
Gay act with a banana and some man
In the audience bet it. And my
Boyfriend said he would have did the
Same thing. I said why would you say
That? He said just to be funny I
Didn't think that was funny at all. He
Make shore I look good and buys me
A lot of things. Doing the trip I find
Him looking at men and the men
Looking at him I said to myself maybe
I'm tripping but I started feeling
Uncomfortable about it. So we are
Back home and I was thinking a lot
About every thing. So I put him to a
Test. We went to a toy store last week
And we bought something. We go
Back home and has sex good sex until
I told him my fantasies was to stick a
Dildo in his butt and he let me do it. I
Also fingered his butt and licked his
Butt hole before he loved it. He let me
Sick the dildo in his butt 2 times on
Different occasions. The last time he
Was jerking his self while I was putting
It in his butt. He said he never did that
Before he just did it because he loves
Me. I do not think that is true I think
He has experienced it before. And he only did it because it was my fantasy but for real that was not my fantasy I just lied to see if he's going to do it and he did. I look at him so different now I am confused. Please somebody help me out. What do you think about my story

[Cat1864]

Many straight men enjoy anal stimulation because it manipulates the prostate glands. He may have experienced it before with other women. Obviously you aren't his first partner. Same thing with his other 'likes'. It doesn't mean he is gay. Men like having their nipples touched and licked, too. Plus everyone has their own little 'kinks' that feel good to them.

Instead of testing and lying to him, talk to him. He could be bi. It means he finds men attractive just like does women. However, he is with you and not a man or another woman. He may be a very secure heterosexual who can enjoy looking at attractive people-male or female.

What your 'story' tells me is that you jumped from one relationship into another one and dragged your children along with you. I don't think you know what you want and may be looking for excuses to back up your insecurities because some part of your brain may be thinking you made a mistake.

Be honest with yourself. Are you looking for excuses? Are you still in love with your ex? If someone told you that he is gay (even if he says he isn't), would you be back in your ex's house and arms?

If the answer was 'no', then talk to the current boyfriend. You jumped in without looking. Don't be so quick to jump to conclusions or in such a rush to 'move on' again. Stop and think. If you can't give him that respect, then find some place for you and your children that doesn't have a male attached to it and figure out what your really want.

[Fr_Chuck]

I find the biggest issue you moved out of one mans house into another mans house, ( sheets were not even clean from one till you were in anothers)

And I agree, many men like those things, they do the stage show because men and women laugh at it and most people who are outgoing would have loved to be on stage making people laugh.

And yes a large goup of men like anal stimulation, it does not mean they are gay, just means tey enjoy that sex

It does not mean they want another man,

I agree it appears you are just looking for a reason to blame him so you can leave him and feel justified.

[WisperWill70]

"but in the back of my mind I still loved my son's father"

-- If you have feelings that you're holding on to, or an attachment to the past (including the cheating and lying)... you're going to (as these other brilliant replies indicate) look for holes to poke in your present relationship.
- Especially if you moved into this relationship with this new guy who was nice, complimentary and attentive so fast that you didn't bother to spend any time focusing on yourself or finding out what you really felt or wanted (you moved from one house to the other).

So your boyfriend is a little kinky, so what? Obviously so are you if you thought up your scheme to test his sexuality out and actually went through with it. Nothing wrong with that. By the way, there are many many straight men and women out there who really enjoy "pegging" (female penetrates her male partner with a dildo) - it doesn't necessarily mean he's gay neither do his comments at the show.

If you want to find your way forward in a new relationship you're going to have to let go of the past with your ex -- forgive him in your heart, stand up for your own happiness (don't stay "in love" with your ex even though he cheated on you many times and expect to be happy) --- and give your new partner a chance to be a different person than your ex.

If you are mistrustful, sneaky and deceptive (disapproving and not loving) then your partner probably doesn't have any reason to include you in his innermost feelings about his sexuality, -whatever they are. I suggest you pay attention to letting go of the past and THEN you can have open conversations about what flips your (and his) sexual lids!

[sheabutta65]

He doesn't Sound gay to me at all. Most men I know like their nipples suck and don't mind if you smack their lol. He probably allowed you to put the dildo in his butt because you said it was "Your fantasy". I mean in his mind he might be thinking if he don't give you what you want then you might go elsewhere. Smh. Nothing you said about This man sounds gay to me. Further more you moved out of your hudbsnds house and into his while you were still in Love with your husband? That's pretty tacky. You should've done things the right way... patience

[Str8 Up]

Yes I agree with everyone else. I don't think Your man is gay either. It just sounds to me like he's the adventerous typr of guy who does'ntmind being broad minded with his sexuality especially with you! Which I would think you'd be happy about. I have to say this, and that Is that I find it rather disturbing when women like you are so quick to pull the Gay card on a guy when and if he is sexually open to things. When on the same hand, A lot of you women do a lot of things that could easily be considered Lesbian or Gayish , if that's what you call it... I've seen females freely Make out with each other and say it's no big deal because a lot of girls try it, even though they are supposed to be straight. I've seen girls go as far as engaging in sexual acts with onne another and even consider themselves dating, but instead of takingowner ship of being a lesbian, they'll say no I am not a Lesbian or Gay, I was just experimenting. And Society accepts this, and acts as if it's the norm and OK. But when a man, Is open to try new things even though he is straight, almost immediately he;s thought to be Gay. You know the truth is, this is why a lot of men are not willing to be open and honest about their fantasies or their kinky ways, because females never know how to be optimistic, annd yet they'll about the guy not talking to them about deep and personal things especially their fantasies that may or may not be the most regular or common thing. I'm a man, and I'm telling you from a man's perspective, you have to win a guys trust annd not be so quick to judge him or make him feel shame and guilty for wanting to be sexually open or experimental... If you as a woman has that right, Then why the hell can't a guy? Believe it or not, our bodies have sensetive areas and feelings too, and we like to be pleasured as well.. I think if more straight women would get a clue, a perfectly straight guy would'nt be so tempted to cross over to the Gay side of life... I justhate when a woman tries to be slick and lie and front to figure out a guys sexuality, hell why not just ask? And if he says no, accept that the same way he'd have to accept your answer if you were asked if you ever had sex or kissed a girl... Cause I can almost bet you'd say " oh I tried it but I'm not Gay". Well then what's good for the goose is good for the Gander. And lastly, don't ask a question nor try to figure somethig out that you ain't ready to get an honest answer about. I really think you just are looking for an excuse to go running back to your ex. And if so that's tacky too.. he's good enough for you to shack with and live with, but if he has a little freak in him you ready to bounce... Women... SMH! What the hell man! Lol