[w4rr1or]

I made another post regarding this but this one should be in a separate one because I feel like it's a new chapter to this whole story.

I've been having daily contact with my ex (1.5 months ago) who recently moved to a new city because she dropped out of school. Here is what she said in one of our recent conversations, talking about her making out with another guy and stuff.

This might seem cliché, but doing what I did was wrong, after I had texted you to meet up and hang out. But after that happened, I realized that what I wanted wasn't another guy, freedom to party, freedom to hang out with friends. You make me happy. You are the love of my life, and I can't fool myself into thinking that I will be happy with someone else, ever. I don't know what it is between us, but as much as I want to fxxxing hate you, I can't. I love you, and I always will. It's one of those things where no matter how hard I try to forget about you, the more you are on my mind. And to hear you say these things about me, it just hurts me. I know I hurt you by doing what I did. But it hasn't been easy for me either. You're probably thinking why I didn't tell you this earlier, and it's because I know exactly what you are going to think. I'm lying, I'm saying this so I can still have the comfort of knowing your there, but fxxk that.

I am trying to believe that was she is saying is true and that the real reason that she doesn't want to commit right now is because her life is really ed up and going under lots of changes, but her attitude and way she talks sometimes is cold and distant.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[thetrinity_3]

I kind of get this... not the same situation with me, but I was with this guy, we would break up, I thought he was the love of my life, we'd get back together, but I wasn't happy with him. We ended up having a REAL break up, and I missed him so much,but I took the time to anylize my relationship, and saw that it actually wasn't healthy. I found this guy I'm with currently who I know is my soul mate.
What I'm trying to say here, is that I think you need to tell her that you need your space to think about things and decide if this relationship is really right for you guys. Get her to do the same. Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her? I honestly thought I could with my first boyfriend, but looking back, I know it was a false hope. And after what she's done, you need to take time to heal anyway. If you REALLY love her unconditionally, and she does as well, you guys will make it work in the end. Good luck to you both! Hope you can work things out for the better.

[talaniman]

You are confused by false hope as those words of keeping you in her life as a "comfort" when she needs it is asking you to understand and be her emotional tampon until she finds better things to do.

Why the hell do you keep talking to her, keeping hope alive, when you know better?

The inability to let go is what's keeping you hurt, stuck, and confused and this is NOT a new chapter in this saga. Its more of the same. Don't believe me, reread your other post. Tell me what's new about this ongoing misery, and confusion?

The only thing you need to understand is leave her alone and build a life without her in it.