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    Whattodo111 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 13, 2012, 08:57 AM
    I asked my best friend out and he said no. How do I move on?
    So here's the deal. We became friends in last September and we started hanging out. We have a lot of common friends so we would see each other often. My friends started teasing me about how he looked at me and how I was also looking like I liked him. And I did start feeling something for him so I started asking him to do stuff with me like going to the movies etc. I was always the one texting him but he was always up for anything and we always had great times.

    One week, he started texting me and asked me to hang out with him. The next week, I decided I was going to tell him I had feelings for him. I told him and he said he kind of knew I liked him and that he had asked himself questions on whether he liked me but realized he just wanted to be friends.

    It was really hard on me and though I really want to stay friends because he's dear to my heart, I don't want our friendship to prevent me from moving on... How should I act around him because we work together and I don't want things to be super awkward?.
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    Apr 13, 2012, 09:04 AM
    What To Do 111?

    First let me welcome you to this beautiful site, dear!

    Hey, first be clear about whether you want his love, friendship and/or company (matrimonial). Think calmly and take decision, and never do haste. Then, move further and ask him what his intentions are. Give him time and space, even as emotional, if physical space impossible, as you work together.

    I wish this relationship a good luck! And you too!
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    Apr 13, 2012, 09:30 AM
    You act as if nothing has happened, smile and be as friendly as you were, but leave him alone outside of work, until you can enjoy the friendship, rethink your expectations with him not being interested, and give yourself time to adjust to being rejected, and disappointed.

    Other friends and family, with activities that you enjoy, will help as you get used to exploring other possibilities for fun without him. Co workers should stick to friendship any way, because rejections, and break ups, or failed romance makes work pretty miserable for a while.
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    Apr 14, 2012, 05:32 PM
    Just be casual friends don't hang out as much because you need space to get over him otherwise you'll be stuck as the one with one way only feelings. Just give yourself time. I like to think "out of sight out of mind"

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