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amandaglp · Apr 13, 2012, 01:49 AM

He says that buying me a home would be an investment for the both of us in our future. He has 3 teenagers at home & I have 3 10, 8 &5. He has always said he wants to live together & wants 2 marry me but now when it comes down to me having to move in the next few months he has now said his son who is 17 has been challenging & thinks we should wait. His son is not a bad kid, a little mouthy but I feel as this is an excuse for him not to have us move in. He wants all the commitment in a relationship, says he wants to marry me but why does he want to buy Nevada place, I would pay what I can afford & he will take care of the rest... I tell him I don't want to rent from my boyfriend, he gets mad & says it would be an investment. I feel like he's side stepping & wants his cake & to eat it too. If you say you want to marry me, want us to be a family, have more then enough room, then really what would u want to have me living somewhere else for & say in the nxt few yrs after his son leaves we can live together.

talaniman · Apr 13, 2012, 10:05 AM

You are right as its HIS investment, and you are a tenant. Stay independent, until you get married and then share his investments as a partner, NOT just a renter.

This arrangement works great for him, and you too, unless he decides to raise the rent. He is DIVORCED right?

mmresd · Apr 13, 2012, 10:43 AM

I completely agree, no wedding, no move-in. Play it safe.

myownopinion · Apr 14, 2012, 05:34 PM

Part pf marriage is making compromises and it sounds like he is too stubborn to do so. You should re consider him

Fr_Chuck · Apr 14, 2012, 05:39 PM

What about YOU buying the house and have it in your name, and you be in control. If you want to buy a house.

It is of course not uncommon for a couple to decide not to move back in together until the children are grown, or order. I did not get with Toni , till my youngest has turned 18 and moved out of the house.