[nevaehchellbell]

I have been with my boyfriend for four years off and on, more on than off, but the point of it is that he still has an anger issue and gets mad about the little stuff and ten turns into something that doesn't have anything to do with the subject. For example if I was the one who set the alarm and it doesn't go off in the morning it is my fault, but the alarm shuts off if any button besides the sleep button is pushed. Then this led to him saying that because I don't please him "relieve him" (if you know what I mean) he will go find it some where else. And he actually has. Other then the whole anger issue we have been okay. Another factor to my relationship is that I have a daughter that is not his biologically and when we got together she was just over one year old. I would have figured by now she would be calling him dad instead of by his first name. Now that she is five I have asked her why she doesn't call him dad and her response is that she don't want just because. I don't want to hurt her any more or myself. So am I making the right choice by trying to figure out why he gets angry and solve it or should I break it off. If I should break it off how should that be done. I have broke up with him before and he cried and begged to me to take him back and I did, but if I do it this time I want it to be final. I am not scared of him because he has never done nothing physically to hurt me, but I am tired of feeling hurt all of the time by the things he says. And please don't criticize me for this it is not as complicated as it sounds.

[tinsign]

From what I just read this is no relationship, why are you with someone who is continually threatening you he will look for sex elsewhere and has because you don't please him good enough? This is bull crap.. HE IS USING THAT FOR AN EXCUSE TO CHEAT.. why even allow him to blame you for silly things? YOU AND YOUR CHILD DON'T NEED THIS EMOTIONAL UPHEAVEL.. get out of this relationship now.. It must be pretty bad when a 5 year old doesn't even want to call him dad.

Of course you can expect to have him beg and cry to get you back since nobody else would ever put up with this kind of treatment.. GET yourself together.. be strong.. get a backbone for your own good. MOST OF ALL RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN AND DON'T FALL AGAIN FOR HIS BULL LINE OF I WILL CHANGE.. IT WON'T HAPPEN HE HASD ALREADY SHOWN YOU THAT ONCE.

[AKaeTrue]

I've never been fond of men who cry and beg myself... Sounds like you're getting pretty fed up with his sour moods, and I would be too... Acting like a jerk then crying and begging for you to forgive him...
What do you feel in your heart would be best for you and your child?
If you decide to let him go, then I'd say yes to making it final. I personally feel that too many break-ups weaken a relationship rather than make it stronger.
Find in your heart what's best for you and your daughter, and base your decision on that.
Kae

[tinsign]

Akaetrue actually worded it better than I did. I just hate to read anyone being emotionally hurt by another and especially when it is not the first time.
Was not angry with you but angry with the man who is doing this to you. Forgive me if it sounded like I was judging you I really wasn't.
But this man is not worthy of you at all.