[gnowine]

I had a huge fight with my mother. I'm 23 years old, and I was living from 17 to 23 alone on my apartment, due to my financial problems and losing my job, I had to go back to my mom.

Problem 1.
So I ordered a guy to check out my apartment about my furnitures which I don't need so he can throw them away, when he arrived I showed him every furniture pieces that I need throwing. (closet, bed, etc)
After showing it to him, my mom was there okay? she went to the guy and showed the same thing to the guy again, what I showed literally 2 minutes ago.

I got angry because, what am I? Stupid? I showed the guy 2 minutes ago what I need throwing and you say and show the same stuffs.

Problem 2.
We are broke, my mom is working and she is in debt. I will start my new job at February the first. And I offered her to pay everything with my February salary which I will get.
And she started crying and crying. And I got mad because , yes , I know we are in a deeep ****, but what should we do? Cry and moan, and be all depressed the whole time? Or better, take a deep breath, and get by and hope for a better coming month? I don't see the reason of being depressed, yes , I am depressed with all the moving and losing my job, but I got one now, but it just ****s up my mind that she can't see the positive side that is coming.
So we argued again.

Problem 3.
She said I am just using her for money. And I exploded, I was really pissed,I tried to talk to her, but she took her stuffs and left, so I chased her at the street and I yelled :PLEASE , PLEASE , LISTEN TO ME, just one ****ing time, she ignores me and she said that she doesn't want to.

How can somebody be so stubborn, or lets say so blinded, not to see that I'm begging her to stop walking and listen to me for a change.

Am I that bad?

[JudyKayTee]

Perhaps if you'd use more respectful language when you speak to your mother you'd get respect in return.

Why does she treat you like a child? Because you are living with her, unable to provide for yourself at this time. It comes with the territory of "moving back in," unfortunately.

If she had problems paying her bills BEFORE you moved in I would imagine it's more stressful now that she is also providing for you (and, yes, additional people cause additional electric bills and so forth) and she's even more stressed out.

It's not your mother's responsibility to support you, provide food and shelter. Nice if she does, but you're a legal adult. She OWES you nothing!

Either be grateful for her help or move out and manage without her.

You complain about her attitude. If you read your post again with the eyes of a stranger you will pick up on your own attitude.

And, yes, I have a total of five (step) children AND I lived on my own for quite a while so I've seen both sides of this.

[Fr_Chuck]

Let me see, why not just move out on the street and you can live like you want. Yes in some ways you are using her for money since you needed a place to stay, food to eat and so on.

And it is her home, not yours, if you have someone in the home, it is fair for your mom to be sure things are done properly.

I would say lets be respectful to your mom and understand you have it a lot better than you would at a homeless shelter. You are no longer on your own, you are now living in someone else's house, and have to do as they want, how they want and when they want.

[jenniepepsi]

You are an ungrateful son.

You tell her you will pay the bills for her, and she, as an adult, gets depressed that she is in need of such assistance from her own son, and you get pissed off at her?

You sound like an A$$

Good luck. I hope things get better for her.