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    Dec 11, 2011, 01:43 AM
    I'm screwed and I want to break free and enjoy life and be happy
    Hi, I had a relationship for 8 months. We broke up. I told him constantly I loved him I know I shouldn't have done that. Then, a few days ago he favorited Poets of the fall-carnival of rust, Red-lie to me and Skillet yours to hold in his YouTube. I confronted him on that and he said that no he doesn't thinks about me even once a month and he didn't tell me something authentic. He said that let's go far away from each other. But since I experienced something true with him. I want to know what does this mean now..
    I thank you so much if you'll support me :|

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    Hi. My elder sister and brother are always mean to me. And so my life sucked big time until I met my crush last September 2010. We had something magical and we were in a relationship for 8 months, it was like true love. I concentrated on love than my life. It was a long distance relationship through Facebook, I lied to him about our whereabouts and stuff. Then, We had a lot of frustrations and uneasiness. Due to my family I was going to leave Facebook but for him I stayed we promised that we would get married one day. But our fights grew each day as my life sucked I guess and I am used to hide my true feelings to maintain peace. I failed my mocks and my dad couldn't trust me to give all of my GCSE's at once so I'm still stuck with 4 of them on may. But he broke up with me on 2 August 2011 and I feel at loss since then I can't regain myself though he said it was over and said lets walk far away from each other and I don't even think about once in a month but he is on my mind every minute. Even my exams are coming closer and I got a 'B' in English and an 'E' in social studies this August, due to all this frustrations. And I have no best/true friend I can talk to. I want to improve what can I do? To be in peace and enjoy my life and stop unfairness? And learn to love again or grow up to meet him like you know true love and get married.. . :/ and I think I've become quiet fake now. I want to be myself.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 03:07 AM
    It probably means what he said,he has moved on and doesn't want to get back together.

    Sometimes things don't work out and we heal,then move on.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 01:33 PM
    NOPE that is not true love. You never even met in person, or endured each other's smelly toes or snores, and you lied to him, and you didn't get along after some months... not love at all. Youthful infatuation. Nothing wrong with it! It's sort of planning for a more mature love.
    Stop thinking about true love and find a best friend. And other friends. THEY are the ones who are there for you when all that true love flits away like a feather.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 02:25 PM
    Wow, I don't know the path to happiness for you, but he ain't it. I think you have a lot of stress, and pressure on you, and depended on him to see you through it, and he couldn't.

    Maybe its for the best to know that, and get focused on what you can do to get through this yourself.

    Still sucks I know, because you were happy, and had high hopes.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 07:10 PM
    Not everyone is right.

    Shop around some more.

    No rush. You don't need a boyfriend to make you happy.

    Happiness comes within first.
    No matter what goes on around you.

    Remember that.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 07:41 PM
    Tiime to know when it is over and time for you to move on.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 08:42 PM
    True, thank you all so very much! But I used to be more fun. And I don't know if I can find a true friend right now but I will try my bestest :) I promise to try my best.

    I used to be a great writer in my class too. I will try to regain myself ty
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    Dec 11, 2011, 08:50 PM
    Cool. Keep that up.

    I write too. All the time.
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    Dec 11, 2011, 09:10 PM
    The best part about being happy doing your thing is friends will come naturally.
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    Dec 12, 2011, 08:07 AM
    I had a lot of couple friends, but I have none. I'm indecisive about blocking him from my fb. I mean every friend of mine doesn't talk to me much. And they think that I should stop kidding myself and be myself. But all of sudden I'm shy and uncomfortable around people. And I feel superficial about the idea of being myself :\
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    Dec 12, 2011, 11:43 AM
    Start small with pursuing YOUR own interests and let yourself grow at YOUR own pace. Practice makes perfect.

    What you thought I was BORN cool, calm, collected, and in control, and CONFIDENT? I wish.

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