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Sandy_123 · Nov 26, 2011, 10:17 PM

I think I need to send this out to the space " I AM HEARTBROKEN" IT HURTS A LOT, I don't know what to do, he just disappeared, one night we were on the phone, there was a problem with the lines I guess, and that's the last thing I knew of him. Why? I don't know. Tried calling him for a couple of weeks and his phone does not accept incoming calls, I know he was having some problems at home but come on!

He is 45, so I can't understand why he did such a thing to me after saying I was the world to him. For many weeks I have been trying to hide this pain but I can't anymore, I miss him so much, and not knowing what happened is killing me, its so hard! Can't go to his place, he lives in a different city. I don't want to feel this way anymore. I really need to do something, I just don't know what ! :(

talaniman · Nov 27, 2011, 11:39 AM

Wondering why phones are the only means of communicating between you? Are there no letters or Emails? What are his issues that seems so extreme? How long have you been a couple? How did you meet, and why are you in different cities?

Much more info is needed.

Sandy_123 · Nov 27, 2011, 11:04 PM

We met in NY , but I had to move to CA , at the beginning we used all sorts of means to keep in touch ( msn, skype, emails etc) but our busy lives didn't allow much time at the computer so, we decided it was much easier to use the phone , we texted all day long! And spoke at night, every day. We were together for 2 years and spoke many times about the future , we wanted to get married and have a baby. I wish I could tell you what his issues are , I think he decided not to tell me some things since they had to do with his sons, he is divorced and his 2 teenage sons lived with him but they never seemed to like the idea of their dad having a relationship, one of them even moved out when he found out we were serious and in love. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my problem I really need a honest opinion.

talaniman · Nov 27, 2011, 11:28 PM

Maybe he has family issues, but its probably the distance that wore him thin. Long Distance Relationships are awfully hard to maintain, especially for buy people, and especially when there are no definite plans to be together.

Even the talk of future happiness can wear thin after a while when it seems its not going to happen.

But it's a big red flag, a warning, that a partner cannot speak honestly to another, busy, or NOT. So what ever the problem is his actions are not at all encouraging without being able to talk and work together.

I suspect there is much he hasn't told you about himself, and that's not good. I would send an EMAIL, or leave a message, and if he wasn't forthcoming with SOMETHING soon, he would be history.

Its possible that's his goal any way, but he is a coward at heart. But there is obviously something going on.

I am a believer in hoping for the best, but plan for the worst, but good luck.

Sandy_123 · Nov 28, 2011, 10:51 PM

You are right , I have been so naïve its hard to believe it, I'm not that kind of person it takes a long time for me to trust someone... I don't know what happened to me , I fell madly in love with him , I trusted him!

The horrible truth is I have to move on and I will do my very best to get over this . I know I will miss him for a long time, after all, I was honest and good to him , gave him the best I had and would've given my life for him , he just didn't give it any value :(

Thank you so much for your time and opinion, it was very helpful just what I needed to put my feet back on the ground.