[I_will_be_fine]

He was leaving the country when we realized we were in love after being close for 1.5 years. We were fine in the 1.5 years long distance relationship later, when he started to change. He became a devotee in ISKCON* and started behaving like I was mere obligation in his life.. It was after a very painful whole year, during which he slowly stopped calling me, mailing or messaging me, that he revealed to me - "your presence in my life is hindering my spiritual progress. I cannot have female partner in my life." I had changed under his influence and became inclined towards a spiritual path of life too. It was devastating to me that this could happen. I never planned a future with him when we were together, but I have realised over the past 2.5 years that it is impossible for me to accept anyone else as a partner in life. I had somewhere unconsciously accepted this person as a partner for life.

It hurts me like hell to think he would have thought I will move on, accept another person in my life.. lead a life away from him.. I cannot.. In my culture I am expected to get married by this age.. All my friends are married and settled.

I am here still not sure where my life is heading.. I am not completely attuned to the spiritual way of life and to the mundane life others lead.. I see him as a saviour.. I trust he will come for me one day.. I just need to change.. take to the way of life he asks me to take to completely... But I am also scared that may be my wait will have no end.. may be he will never think of me like he does now.. and I will remain alone all my life then.. waiting for him and he wouldn't even know..
What shall I do?
I can't talk to him.. only thing he said (the only time I spoke to him in the past 2.5 years)was that I take to the spiritual path as soon as possible.. and we should not talk to each other anymore as he is not allowed to talk to females..


* ISKCON - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ISKCON_guru

[talaniman]

My dear he is on his own spiritual path, and the fact that you have not followed him down that path is a true indication that you were mean't for something else.

He isn't, nor will he ever be your savior as he is seeking HIS own salvation. Seek your own way, through your own spirit, and follow your own path.

He was never meant to be a part of your life, so no point in waiting for him. Live your own life without him. Wish him well in his journey, and get about your own.

Accept this for what it is. Just a stop on your way through life, and now its past, and YOU must move on to the next stop.

[online.me]

Take my words he won't comeback... now it's upon you to decide. Do you want to wait for something that won't ever happen ?

[Jake2008]

It sounds to me that you were lead down some garden path, and you willingly went. He needed to change you, and you went along with it, only to be told that he can no longer have contact with females- including you.

Perhaps your mistake was putting so much faith in a man in the first place. To have accepted him to the point of considering him a 'saviour' of some sort, puts you in the category of at least being naïve.

Had you stayed with him, how would your life have turned out. Had you discovered after the fact that you were to remain at a distance, or follow his instructions or way of life and remain under his control, where would you be. What you have described of him, is not love, or a loving relationship. And, it does not look like you will ever have him change.

So, change is now in your life, whether you like it or not. Your alternative for not accepting the end of the relationship with him, is to remain miserable.

He is not the person you thought he was, nor is he a saviour. He dumped you, plain and simple.

Time to move on.

[mmresd]

You were fine before you met him and you will be fine after. Give it some time, you just got broken up with and it hurts, especially if you felt love. It will die down and your life will go back to normal. If you don't think you can be with anyone else then remain single for a while, if you THINK that you HAVE to have a man with you to be happy and live your life you are mistaken. Happiness comes from within a person, it is not good or necessary to base your happiness on someone else.

[vanheart]

I think you already know what to do.

Not only is trying to start of LD, but being on the same wavelength.

Show him who's REALLY spiritual. And get with YOU.

Not him... That's the ticket.

Whatevs. Some people find God, some find other girls, some, who knows?