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    t2oussaint Posts: 19, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 30, 2011, 10:33 PM
    Should I move on or keep trying to get her back
    Well I was in a 4 year relationship I'm 24 now and me n my ex just broke up 5 months ago.
    She is all I think about even if I'm hanging with another chick or even have relations with another girl I make an excuse to stop because it doesn't feel right and she pops in my head she been dating this new guy for months but we still talk from time to time and she tells me how he doesn't respect her he always talking to his friends over her and a lot of negatives stuff lately but on Facebook she says how how she loves him and all this other stuff but she tells me she doesn't think it will last long me and this girl have been through thick and thin and I admit at the beginning of the relationship I was young and immature but as we started dating and being around each other more I started to fall in love with her more we lived together n a apt for a year... but I don't get if she tells me on thing and then post on Facebook another do I still have a chance I need some input guys n gals thanks a lot
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Oct 1, 2011, 01:27 PM
    The minute she got some other guy, you should have stayed away from her, and her Facebook. You would be a lot further down the line than you are now. It's the contact that keeps you all stirred up and confused since her words and actions don't match.

    Start leaving her alone, and enjoying your life, and stay out of hers. She made her choice, now you make yours.
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    t2oussaint Posts: 19, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 1, 2011, 03:07 PM
    Thanks man but I see you commenting on everyone's and its all about leaving the other person alone I don't think I've seen once you said go with your feelings not that I don't appriciate your opinon bro
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    Oct 1, 2011, 03:46 PM
    There is a very good reason I NEVER tell anyone to go with their feelings. Feelings can mislead, and distract you from facts, my friend, and my advice is to think and make a plan/choice/decision based on FACTS, and not JUST feelings.

    In your case, why keep messing with a female that complains about her man to you but is still with him. Fact is she likes where she is, and hasn't left, so why waste time on her because you have feelings?

    Time is to precious to waste on false hope because of your feelings for someone that obviously doesn't feel as you do.

    There is another benefit to thinking and not following your feelings, and that's stepping back and seeing if what you are doing is doing you any good.

    What good is it doing to keep talking to this ex? You can't be having any fun, and according to you, it even affects your abilities with other females, so what's the point in following your feelings when you are not happy??
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    t2oussaint Posts: 19, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 1, 2011, 04:57 PM
    Your right man... o guess that was my feelings speeking lol but I don't know busddy thank you for the advice
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    Oct 2, 2011, 02:53 PM
    Its been 5 months.

    She's with another guy, you are with another girl.

    Stay out of the past.

    Yes, move on. And No, don't try to get her back.

    I don't recommend rebounds either. Get over her first.

    "thanks man but i see u commenting on everyones and its all about leaving the other person alone i dont think ive seen once u said go with ur feelings not that i dont appriciate ur opinon bro"

    I disagree. Respect due to Talaniman.

    You'll see.



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