[Homegirl 50]

If that is what you want to tell yourself, you go right ahead
You don't want advice, you want someone to tell you to wait around for this girl, that being her "friend" will be enough.
I can't and won't tell you that.

[timmy8493]

Has this happen to you

[Homegirl 50]

No it hasn't but if you read enough of the post here you'll see this is true.
You need to go NC and get this girl out of your system, but you need to want to do that.

[talaniman]

Its happened to many of us and I can tell you that the love of a teenager in school, and that of a young man trying to build a future life is two entirely different things as for one while you are working paying rent, she is gossiping about a boy at lunch, and trolling the malls with her friends, and seeing if her dad will increase her allowance for a pair of rad shoes she wants.

While you think of the future, she can't see past graduation, college or anything so far ahead. Its important you let this kid go to grow up, and deal with females who know what a great guy is, and not a child who can brag to her friends what an older guy does for her.

Get out of her world, and get in your own my friend, or are you afraid of the world of real MATURE females that are on your level.

You just can't make a teeny bopper be a woman. Doesn't work that way, and to be stuck on that level will cost you in the end. As you are seeing for yourself, she is confused by her own feelings, and isn't really serious about anything you are, just fun, and fine dining, at your expense.

Ask yourself, what is she doing for your life other than costing you money, and wanting attention? What does she bring to the table besides sex, in a easy kid way?

Stop waiting for HER to grow up!

[Homegirl 50]

This girl is 16 years old. You two are on two entirely different pages. She is 16 and in a 16 frame of mind. She is not going to be thinking future with you. She still has to graduate HS, go to prom.
Leave this girl alone. This is a no win situation.

[timmy8493]

Actually she doesn't brag to her friends about me and she is thinking about the future

[talaniman]

Well since you believe her, then wait. Please let me know how long you think it will take before she is yours again.

[timmy8493]

All right

[redhed35]

She lost love for you but still has feelings for you?

And you brought that line?

Just what excatly do you think love is? Yes it's a feelings but its also an action, its trust and honesty its communication.. what you have is a line because she did not have the balls to tell you she wants out, she sold you a line and you took it hook line and sinker.

So you have two choices... wait for her to come back ( won't happen) by the way.. or start moving on towards healing and someone who wants the same things you do, even just someone who WANTS you, who has enough respect to tell you the truth and believes your man enough to be able to hear the truth.

[odinn7]

It really looks like you came here to have us tell you to wait for her. We are all telling you to get out of this to save you from going through it and you are pretty much ignoring what we are saying.

You asked if anyone has been through this... yes, I have. It hurt like hell. I wanted to believe her so badly that I put myself through this. What an absolute mess. I learned from it and now it sounds like you need to go through it too because you really don't want to hear it from us.

At your age, life is still beginning and you have all the time in the world to find someone and you don't need to put up with this. Have fun dealing with the pain, the sleepless nights, feeling used, and feeling ashamed of yourself for believing her. Take care.

[timmy8493]

Later

[timmy8493]

Well we broke up