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adviceishere · Jan 31, 2011, 09:47 AM

Agreed, you need to have a kind of connection with a counsellor, I have had many and have eventually found some really amazing ones that I could share anything with

mixedupgirly · Jan 31, 2011, 10:11 AM

Wow :/ this is ermm... rather bad :/ I'm 16 too and have had interourse maaan you should have have just told your mum instead of her finding out the horrible hard way x

88sunflower · Jan 31, 2011, 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by mixedupgirly

wow :/ this is ermm... rather bad :/ im 16 too and have had interourse maaan you shoulda have just told your mum instead of her finding out the horrible hard way x

Its more then just that. Read the entire thread. A variety of things have evolved to get this thread where it is.

tazma95 · Jan 31, 2011, 06:02 PM

Im sorry I shouldn't of complained it wasn't that bad I was just feeling very frustrated about being asked so many personal questions. I will keep going back and I know I should have went of about my mum that wasn't fair like I said I was just frustrated and needed to vent. Thank you for the great advice and support you all have given me and I'm sorry if at times I have acted like a spoilt brat. This hasn't been easy for me but I know things will get better I just have to try harder.

Cat1864 · Jan 31, 2011, 06:51 PM

Vent. We will listen and we will bring you back down to Earth. :)

Hold on to the thought that hopefully someday soon you will feel like you can rant to your counselor and get immediate feedback instead of waiting for us.

adviceishere · Feb 1, 2011, 03:38 AM

Hey keep us all posted, we're all here to help and to listen to the good outcome this will have. You're a good girl, you just swerved a little in the wrong direction :)

tazma95 · Feb 2, 2011, 05:09 PM

My mum annoys me sometimes she was suppose to pick me up from work last night, I usually get a lift with my friend but I'm not allowed to anymore mum wants to pick me up, she didn't come I stood there for a hour waiting I tried ringing her and she didn't answer. I ended up walking home talk about scary I hate walking in the dark. I shouldn't complain though when I got home she was asleep she must have been tired. My second day at school and I have so much homework to do I forgot how much you get. I can't wait until my hours get cut have to wait until they find someone and then I have to train them. Hope it happens soon I'm so tired and my homework keeps on getting more and more talk about stress I wish I was still on school holidays

88sunflower · Feb 3, 2011, 07:51 AM

I am so sorry to hear this.

Did your mom say anything about not picking you up? Was it an honest mistake? Things like that happen. It could have been an honest mistake.

In your counseling they will ask a pile of questions. This is how they get to know you. Your expressions, your actions. How your answering and your answers is everything they use to help you. I mean really if they don't ask you questions how are they supposed to know? How can they dig and find the root of the problem? Be patient. Be strong and go forward. I suggest your mother also be part of this.

I want to also say you are not a spoiled brat and never once came across that way. Your 15. Honey, for lack of better works growing up sucks. Every day is a new day. Every day your learning how to be an adult. You have peer pressure in school and life is pressure enough. Personally I don't know if this is right or wrong to say to you but I hated it. I hated school, I hated being a teenager and I hated growing up. I hated the pressures of being pretty or cool. If you were in sports you were a loser. Trust me. We have all been there. I still stood strong at those ages. I am who I am. I dressed how I felt pretty and still do today. I did what made me feel good. You can't always answer to what others "expect" your living life for YOU not them.

Point being your entering a tough age to have issues with work and your mother. All around its going to be stressful at times. But in the end how you live it and the choices you make is what will form your adulthood. You seem so strong. You love your mother. You want to do well and prove yourself. You can do it. You tell that counselor everything from the bottom of your heart. I don't care if it was something from 10 years ago. You get it all out there. Then you move forward on what to do to feel better about it and fix it.

tazma95 · Feb 7, 2011, 02:56 AM

I had a fight at school today well I wouldn't say it was a fight more like I got attacked my exs sister punched me and pushed me down the stairs she reackons I was a well you know for breaking up with him and that I'm seeing someone else. I told her I wasn't but she didn't care we both got taken to the principal and we got suspended for 3 days my mum went off her head at me I told her it wasn't my fault but she doesn't want to listen.I totally hate my mum at the moment she wouldn't even let me explain what happened. She rang up my uncle she said he's coming over to have words with me I told her I don't care let him have words with me and then she slapped me said I was being cheeky. Well she can go to hell hitting me she had no right to do that I know I shouldn't of talked back to her but she still had no right, I'm so friging mad with her I ran into my room and locked the door I hate being in this house with her. Im the one with a broken arm and she still always thinks the worst of me , thinking that I started the fight its so frustrating I just want to scream at her tell her to listen to me and believe me

Homegirl 50 · Feb 7, 2011, 09:15 AM

I am so sorry you are going through all of this.
When is your next counseling session?

88sunflower · Feb 7, 2011, 12:43 PM

Broken arm?
Did I miss something?

Cat1864 · Feb 7, 2011, 01:35 PM

Tazma, what happened?

Homegirl 50 · Feb 7, 2011, 03:40 PM

When your mother calms down, you should tell her exactly what happened. She should know that your ex boyfriend is still pushing his way into your life

tazma95 · Feb 8, 2011, 12:38 AM

I broke my arm when I got pushed down the stairs.It totally sux I have a plaster on my arm I can't work and I've been grounded even though it wasn't my fault. I hate my ex and his sister I just want to ring him up and yell at him but I don't have my mobile mums still got it. I tired to tell mum it wasn't my fault but she won't listen she just thinks it was my fault for starting the fight, I didn't even hit the girl I just stood there. Its so unfair my ex thinks I'm seeing someone else just because I walked home with my next door neighbour (hes a boy). Not that its any of his business but guys are the last thing on my mine. I wish he and his sister would just leave me alone. Im dreadind this afternoon my uncle is coming over to talk to me I'm a bit worried about what he's going to say he's always so grumpy telling me that I need to straighten up my act. Im just going to have to sit there and bite my tongue so I don't get into anymore trouble. Talk about stress I wish my mum had of just sent me to boarding school would have been great to get away from all these people.

adviceishere · Feb 8, 2011, 02:27 AM

His sister pushed you down the stairs at school? Are the police involved? If not, they should be involved, this is very serious, you could have broke more than your arm, you were lucky. I don't believe people can just go pushing others down stairs and it not be taken serious, its almost like attempted murder!

tazma95 · Feb 8, 2011, 05:54 AM

No the police aren't involved but when we go back to school were suppose to have a meeting with our year co ordinator and the school based police officer to discuss what happened.It wasn't lots of stairs it was just three her and her friends said I fell down them I didn't get to say anything I was in the nurses office until mum picked me up and took me to the hospital.She better watch out the next time I see her I'm going to yell at her she is so stupid her and her brother I can't believe it. My uncle came around this afternoon and gave me a big lecture about my behaviour and causing trouble for my mum he recons that if I don't behave that I'm going to stay with him and give my mum a break.There is no way in the world I will go and stay with him I hate going to his house. I don't know what they want or exspect from me anymore I'm trying to do the best I can I don't know what more I can do. No one seems to believe that I didn't do anything I suppose it doesn't help when she had her friends there and I was by myself so everyone believes what they said even my own mum doesn't believe me I'm so angry at the moment I feel like going to his house and yell at him but mums home and I'm grounded so ill have to wait and to think I loved this guy.

Cat1864 · Feb 8, 2011, 07:52 AM

Originally Posted by tazma95

but she didnt care we both got taken to the principal and we got suspended for 3 days

Originally Posted by tazma95

It wasnt lots of stairs it was just three her and her friends said i fell down them i didnt get to say anything i was in the nurses office until mum picked me up and took me to the hospital..

Tazma, when did you go to the nurse's office? When were you in the principal's office?

When is your next counseling session?

tazma95 · Feb 8, 2011, 08:18 AM

I got taken to the principals office first by the teacher on yard duty. When I got to the principals office he sent me to the nurses office because my arm was sore I couldn't move it and my nose was bleeding so I didn't get to say anything I didn't even know that I was suspended until mum told me. I go to counseling on Friday.

alexandradrozdz · Jun 21, 2011, 02:46 PM

Do you live in the UK? Because if you do, it's illegal to have sex if you are under 16, but then again, to have sex, you need to be emotionally ready and responsible. You clearly haven' considered the effects it may have on you and on your family. As for your Mum, she has the right to look at your stuff, in case she thinks you might be hiding some items which would be deemed inappropriate or dangerous, I'm not saying you do keep dangerous items, but if you get my point. Also, if you were really responsible, you'd discuss the topic with your partner and Mum a rational manner, to reassure her that you know what you are doing, which you clearly haven't done. The reason why she checks on you and your room, is to make sure that you are not up to no good, and for yours and her sake, she only wants you to be safe and happy, because she loves you.