[bikerguy1111]

Hi people

I have a friend I like but she has a boyfriend of about 2 years. We often go out in the same circle of about 12 friends. I think she knew I liked her when we first met, and she'd just started seeing her BF,(this was about 2 years ago), so I didn't advance my interest any more and tried to put my attraction for her to the back of my mind and just remain friends.

Recently though Ive noticed certain body language signals and her showing some interest towards me again. Like she will come sit next to me and talk more than you'd expect, a lot of eye contact etc. touching my arm when we are talking etc.. We were out the other evening for a few drinks and her boyfriend left early, I ended up being sat next to her and about 2 minutes before we were due to leave and board our taxis home, she started rubbing the inside of my leg under the table very intimately. I didn't advance or say anything or do anything about it, I just froze cause I don't want to intrude in her relationship. So I just ignored it remained silent and didn't respond in any way

Any advise ? I don't know if she thinks I don't like her now, I really do like her a lot but don't know how if its possible to advance this in a fair way without coming across as someone who has gone behind her bf's back

[Sarah_Marie]

I think that you should secretley talk to her and explain all the feelings and emotions you currently have toward her. This will be the hardest thing to do but it will all be for the best. Just explain to her that you do not want to hurt the friendship between you two but you feel she needs to know the truth so that you can figure out what to do.

[answerme_tender]

Bikerguy--

You both are grown ups, so do the grown up thing. Come out and ask her what's going on here, that you don't want to assume anything, but when a woman starts rubbing the inside of a mans leg, friend or not, a man would consider that a pass!
My question to you is, what are you going to do if she does tell you that she has feelings for you other then friends. Are you just going to jump right into a full blown relationship with her?
I would certainly hope that you are man enough to give her time to explain to her current BOYFRIEND that she no longer wants a relationship with him. You don't want to loose yourself respect over this. I would also make sure you not her rebound!
I know this all speculation, but just remember if she can cheat on this present boyfriend, she can and will on any man!

[I wish]

Humans have a way to twisting the other (person you have feelings for) person's action into thinking that they might have feelings for you.

We have no idea what she's really thinking, but just be prepared to face the consequences of your actions.

Try reading this thread first for insights and what I mean by consequences: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

[pandead]

My question is, how comfortable would you be if you would end up dating her, knowing she's capable of "rubbing the inside of a friend's leg very intimately" when you leave her with friends in a bar?