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    Sep 13, 2010, 01:19 PM
    Friend? Boyfriend?
    I just got with my boyfriend about a month ago. He treats me like s*** but there is just something about him that makes me have to stay with him. A really close friend of mine recently has been all on all of these other guys. My boyfriend tells me to meet him at her house at 11:30 at night. I do not show up because I was not about to sneak out and walk a mile to her house. Then, he ended up staying there. He was at her house from 12:00 to to a.m. That sounded a little fishy to me. A couple days ago, he stayed after school with her. ALONE. && now, when he went over to her house at mid-night, they were Completely alone by the "pool". So I've heard. My Best friend just told me today that, she kissed him a couple times to. It's not hard for me not to believe anything, because of everything she has showed of herself before. I want to go comfront her, but I just.. I don't know what to do. HELP!
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    Sep 13, 2010, 01:28 PM

    Some friend! Lose the boyfriend and the "friend".
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    Sep 13, 2010, 01:32 PM

    With friends like these, who needs enemies.

    As kit said, lose them.
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    Sep 13, 2010, 05:23 PM

    He treats you like ****. What else do you need to know? Why are you staying with him? Why go and confront HER?
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    Sep 13, 2010, 05:30 PM

    You love to be treated that way or you would leave. You can't fix him and he has no respect for you.

    He uses you because you let him and who can respect someone who doesn't respect themselves?
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    Sep 14, 2010, 07:32 AM

    beats me what you think your worth is when you say openly and unhesitatingly some guy treats you like s***...

    if you don't value yourself,the world cares a d*** to do so...

    enjoy being treated like s***.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:01 PM
    But there is something about him that makes me want to stay with him. My "friend" said she wouldn't do that mess to me. I don't want to loose anyone.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:06 PM
    Awkward..
    Okay, so in a couple of days, I'm going to a place where I go often, but I had just found out, 4 of my ex's are going to be there. 2 say they still love me, want to get back together, and want to kiss me that same night. 1 says he wants to get back together with me. && the other 2 could care less. But... I have a boyfriend and I still kind of have feelings for all the other 3 that care. WHAT TO DO..?
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by madim23 View Post
    But there is something about him that makes me want to stay with him. My "friend" said she wouldnt do that mess to me. I dont wanna loose anyone.
    That something about him is you want to "fix" him. You can't. Your friend is no friend in my book. If you want to stay that's your business, but I'll give it a week before he is out on the prowl.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:11 PM
    Well that's good advice.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:11 PM

    How old are you and the guys?
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by madim23 View Post
    Well thats good advice.
    Do you know how great it's going to make him feel? You the "stand by" who is always there. It empowers him and makes him more of a player.
    He'll treat you worse and worse and you'll still want to stay. The friend shouldn't have never put herself in the position of anything happening between them.

    Don't be a doormat... Leave him alone.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:18 PM
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:20 PM

    In your other thread you said you had been with your boyfriend a month. Now you say all these guys are your exes? I have asked the Mods to merge your threads.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:22 PM
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    Mods to merge my theads? What? && yeah I know its been about a month and a week aqo sense I dated my last.
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:30 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by madim23 View Post
    Okay, so in a couple of days, I'm going to a place where I go often, but I had just found out, 4 of my ex's are going to be there. 2 say they still love me, want to get back together, and want to kiss me that same night. 1 says he wants to get back together with me. && the other 2 could care less. But...I have a boyfriend and i still kinda have feelings for all the other 3 that care. WHAT TO DO...?!
    Make up your mind would help.
    Check your math also 4exs... 2 still love you and want to get back with you and kiss that night 1 just wants to get back
    2 could care less =5

    And where does the boyfriend fit in? -1 more after this?
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    Sep 15, 2010, 01:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by martinizing2 View Post
    Make up your mind would help.
    Check your math also 4exs......2 still love you and want to get back with you and kiss that night 1 just wants to get back
    2 could care less =5

    And where does the boyfriend fit in? -1 more after this?
    I totally agree with you!

    4 exboyfriends

    3 I still care about

    2 who still love me

    And a partridge in a pear tree!
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    Sep 15, 2010, 02:06 PM

    What's wrong with this picture? You have a boyfriend who treats you like crap, spends time alone with your best friend, and you have exes chasing you for attention.

    Forget the exes, and dump the guy treating you like crap, and get a better friend who won't kiss on your b/f when your not around and tell you ain't nothing happening.

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