[Radian]

She dumped me for treating her more like a friend and she doesn't think I'm over the death of my mother who died 10 months ago but I can slightly agree with that but just can't understand why dumping me was the answer? She is now away to Cyprus for a holiday in 4 weeks time and has an interview for a job there next summer!

[ninjajr92]

Can you give us more information? I'm lost where she going to Cyprus for 4 weeks has to do with anything. But by seeing what has happened with what you have given me, I think its best if you move your life away from her. Besides, if she dumped you you should be trying to get over her by cutting communication to a minimum because you're only getting hurt more if you guys talk all the time since you still have the emotional attraction to her.

[Wondergirl]

Go No Contact. That's the only way. Move on with your life.

[Enigma1999]

I agree with ninjajar.

We need a little more information to help you. Your post doesn't really back up your title.

Thank you.

[Radian]

Sorry when I wrote my head was in a mess. Well last week she dumped but said it was a hard decision. I'm quite quiet and she's loud and thinks we are too different. She said I don't treat her like she feels a girlfriend should be treated and after 6 months she doesn't really know me she says I'm a closed book I never tell her my inner thoughts or worrys and feels when imm around her I give the impression I'm not interested but last year my mother died which I've never spoken about which she feels I haven't trully got over and thinks I should speak to someone as she thinks I'm unhappy! She is coming round on Sunday to speak and I intend to tell about my morthers battle with cancer and she said at the moment we can only be friends cause its too difficult for her but to be honest until she said I never thought it affected me but it must have I suppose, I mean is there a possibility that we could deal with this issue work on things and move on together or is it too late and we will never happen again? If its still a mess sorry I just can't think prob sometimes I'm gutted and want her back other times I think sod it I'm off travelling again but also is she right do I have issues? I was backpacking around the world when my morther got diagnosed so I had to come home and watcgh and care for her a bit during her 10 month battle.

[beachloverjohn]

It sounds like there is just too much distance between you. You might just need to go your separate lives. Seems like there is not much chemistry in this relationship.

[Homegirl 50]

It seems like you two are not meant for each other, there are too many differences.
I think it best you and leave her alone.
I'm sorry about your mom.

[Radian]

Why has she text me last 4 days asking how I am plus saying she has problems and made a little remark about me not making her my number 1? I'm meeting her in a few days Im stopping texts but still want to see her but what do I say when she is round she wants me to open up about my mum! Think I will as if I have a problem it will help as a person but I really don't want to come over as if I desperate for her to come back, even though I am, do I make on that I completely agree with her dumping me?

[Homegirl 50]

Well she has dumped you.
Tell her since you two are no longer dating you see no reason for her to be number 1 and you really have nothing to say to her. Then you leave her alone.
You may want to see her, but you don't need to. Leave her alone.