[MattXFX]

My girlfriend of 10 months just broke up with me, and she wants to be friends. We've not really been talking for the last month and she couldn't deal with the relationship anymore. It hurt me a lot and in the last 2 days I have said some very mean things. I have decided not to talk to her for a couple weeks so that I don't hurt her anymore, and there is a better chance of us being friends. Unfortunately she is in my course and hangs out with the small group that I hang out with and we have to do a group lab in class tomorrow. I am unsure how to deal with it. I don't really know other people in the course to do the lab with.
There is 4 of us in this group.


I feel like this whole thing has alienated me, and it really sucks.

[talaniman]

How old are you? I think you start by being polite, and focusing on your task before you. It would help to have other friends at school, and outside of this class.

[MattXFX]

I'm 19and the problem is, that all my friends at that campus, are in my class and in the group for our lab in practical.

[beachloverjohn]

Do you understand what being a friend means? She will tell you about her dates, and if she really likes someone, she will confide in you. You don't really want that do you? Be polite as Tal said, but that's as far as you should go. When enough time has passed, when neither of you are romantically interested in the other, when you are over this, then you can become friends.

[MattXFX]

I would tell you that the relationship is salvagable, but I don't want to fool myself anymore. I just am at the point where I wish she had never existed so that I wouldn't think of her face every time I imagined the perfect girl.

[talaniman]

You have made her the center of a very small universe, and that needs to change really fast just because you need other options beside this one class, and this one person. I highly suggest you expand your circle of friends, and activities.

You need a healthy balance in your life. Like right now.

[MattXFX]

I have decided to take up meditation. I truly believe it will help me find my inner self, and craft who I am supposed to be.

[MattXFX]

I just broke up with my girlfriend and I feel terrible right now. A week ago she left me, and the reason she gave was because she had school, problems at home, and I wasn't making anything better. At first I thought, given some time, she would warm up to me again and once some of her issues cleared up she would be willing to try again. I talked to her yesterday as she gave me a ride home from college and it turns out that my constant complaining about life made it worse and made her edgy towards her friends and family. I feel like the weight of everything came down on her, and when that leaves I am hoping she was going to want to try again. When she dropped me off, I was running my fingers through her hair, and she was crying because she missed it so much. I want to know what everyone else thinks.

I see her every day in my course in college, and I sit near her cause she hangs out with all my friends.

I truly love and adore her and I am having a hard time letting go.

[kaka67]

Leave her alone.

You need to deal with these issues before you even bother attempting to be in a relationship:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/medica...14001-new.html

[Askingquestion]

If you were complaining about life so much when you were with her, that it bogged her down - how happy could you really have been? I've been around people that are constantly negative and complain about their lives, and it really is draining. Regardless of where someone is in their own life, it's never a positive force in your life to be around someone that is negative and complains about life. So, to me it sounds like she broke up with you because of the mood you were constantly in, not necessarily because of who you are. You'll have to find out what is causing you to look so negatively towards life and work on that before anything else.