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sweetpie · Sep 19, 2010, 08:17 AM

I am in a relationship for the past 7 months. I did a long thinking before getting into a relationship. This is my first love and I want it to be my only love. Everything is going on perfect and fine. He loves me a lot and I know that very well. He cares for me like anything and he loves me till he would give and do anything for me. His love is unconditional. Basically, his love is perfect and he is too.
But, when it comes to relationship, sometimes being naughty becomes like a need and desire. He loves being naughty with me and I know its only me. I know he wants only me and he loves only me, and no one else. I do get naughty with him too. Sometimes, I do make the first move. But most of the time, he does. He does asks me to have sex with him. But it never happened yet. I just want to get some advice on this. Is it wrong to be naughty in only 7 months of being in a relationship? Does time influences? And sometimes, I feel I don't want to be naughty because I am afraid this may affect the relationship in future? Does it?
I will be pursuing my studies in overseas soon. In a few months time. Its going to be a long distance relationship then. Is being naughty vital in long distance relationship? Does it make any differences?
I am really looking forward to get good advice in reply.
Thanks in advance.

DoulaLC · Sep 19, 2010, 08:35 AM

How old are you both? At any age it can be difficult to sustain a relationship long distance, but especially if very young and still discovering what you want and don't want in a relationship.

While some people do have just one relationship that lasts a life time, many people have a few relationships before they make that decision.

sweetpie · Sep 19, 2010, 08:41 AM

I am 19 and he is 20 this year. Maybe you are right when you said that we are still young and it can be difficult to make a decision that this is the only realationship. But, I want only him, and I want to sustain this life long. He is like that too.

DoulaLC · Sep 19, 2010, 09:11 AM

In regard to how intimate you decide to become, remember that you ultimately make that choice, and yes, it can effect your future. Obviously pregnancy will always be a possibility, even if you use protection, and that certainly would change a good number of your decisions. Be careful not to be pressured into having sex before you feel ready for it. I'd be especially careful since you will be leaving in a few months time. If it is meant to be for the two of you to stay together, it can wait until you feel absolutely certain.

You've only been going out for seven months. With you leaving, odds are great that you won't end up staying together. If you do, great... you can resume the relationship once you return. If you both want to be together and make it work, it will work... regardless if you are close by or not.

If you truly care about each other, and the relationship is meant to last, not being naughty won't make a difference.

Enjoy the time you have together before you leave, but don't feel you need to engage in more than you feel comfortable with in an effort to sustain the relationship.

Have fun overseas... it is a tremendous opportunity for you! Where are you going?

beachloverjohn · Sep 19, 2010, 10:30 AM

At 19, I think you are too young to decide that this boy is going to be the only love you will ever have.

You are going overseas for your studies, so you will have a whole new life without him, make new friends, and probably date other boys.

This is not the time in your life to be "naughty" as you put it. You are obviously not ready for the consequences emotionally. Stay true to yourself, and don't give in to unhealthy activities. There is nothing to gain from this. He loves you unconditionally, then leave it at that. If your love stands the test of time and distance apart, then you have plenty of time in your future to be "naughty" with him.

In my opinion, a year from now, you will both have moved on, and you will be glad you waited. And if you end up together,you will still be glad you waited.

talaniman · Sep 19, 2010, 10:43 AM

Is it wrong to be naughty in only 7 months of being in a relationship?

I thinks so, because I don't think that the lust, and newness have run its course in just 7 months, and add that to the fact of you leaving, having sex is a big NO WAY at this time. See how the LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP works first. If its true love it will grow, and if its only youthful lust, it will fade, but for sure you need a lot more than 7 months to know what the heck it is, and what you should do about those strong intense feelings.

But, I want only him, and I want to sustain this life long. He is like that too.

Fair warning, many guys will think that having sex with a young virgin will make them theirs forever, whether they marry them or NOT. So be aware and cautious with your heart and body, and don't let your inexperience make you stupid, or naïve.

Strong feelings after 7 months is hardly and indication that you will feel the same after a few years, let alone a lifetime.

sweetpie · Sep 19, 2010, 11:08 AM

Thanks so much for all the replies. Im really glad to receive this kind of reply as advises. I did talked it out with him and he agreed that things have to go much slower. I know that I want to come back as his and I want to marry him and have kids and grow old and.. everything with only him ! I don't know why but in a very short period, all he showed to me was happiness. I really hope this last and we both will work it out. Thank you.
And by the way, I am going to aussie for my studies.