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    smcthatgirl2 Posts: 92, Reputation: 2
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    Dec 15, 2008, 12:49 AM
    How to stop feeling alone, sad and unnoticed
    I know this all sounds pathetic, and I have said it a hundred times over, but I really, really can't shake this feeling. I feel like, for the past year, I have made a conscious effort to try and be happier, and its just isn't working. I have always been shy, but never cold or snobbish. I just feel so alone. I mean I have loving friends and family and I shouldn't be complaining but can't you still feel terribly alone when you are no one's 'one and only'. I'm 16, and I'm just embarrassed at myself. How sad is it that at this age I have never had a boyfriend, not even a first kiss. I don't know what is wrong with me, I feel like something must be really repellent about me because nobody seems to notice me at all. I joined a youth group with one of my friends to try and get out there a bit more and boost my confidence but it hasn't really done anything to help me. It seems I am condemned to being eternally single, lol. But really, I'm always left feeling disheartened and dissollusioned as everybody I like does not like me back. I don't think I am that bad looking, I'm not beautiful but am I not good enough foor anyone in this world. I just feel so sad I can't even tell you, it just crushes me and makes me want to give up on life altogether. I don't know what to do anymore..
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    Dec 15, 2008, 01:03 AM
    Hello, smcthatgirl2 :)

    I want you to know that the situation you describe is a quite normal feeling in a teenager's life. You are not alone, even the most popular girl or boy in school struggle with this topic although it may not show on the outside.

    You are in a very sensitive age right now, and you have felt trapped in your feelings without a chance to get out. This will change, just be patient. I guess that in a year you will have found the strength in yourself to know that you are worth a lot, and not worse than anyone else, you are a 100 % normal teenage-girl.

    Give yourself time and stay with people that strenghtens you, instead of focusing on the people in your life that only brings you down.

    I wish you all the best
    Illion
    :) :) :)
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    Dec 29, 2008, 05:35 AM

    Thank you :) I know exactly what you mean. I just can't figure out why I am still alone, what is wrong with me? I know I'm not confident enough and probably am not in the right headspace for a relationship lol but I still just want what everyone else has. It's a horrible feeling
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    Dec 29, 2008, 10:30 PM

    First of all you don't need a boyfriend. At your age no way.Here some of my advice. Every day do something with a friend or your family every single minute. Or go to the mall with your friends but not on sundays, so you see people around you, that will make yo see you are not alone. Go on the phone and talk to a bunch of your friends so you can hear you are not alone.Then for one night play with all your family so you now that you have someone who is caring for you. Hope this helped
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    Dec 30, 2008, 10:46 AM

    Well first DO NOT GIVE UP ON LIFE! I know the feeling I have been there before. You should sit down and brainstorm things that interest you. Some hobbies that you wouldn't mind taking up. Try to start to get involved in community things or activities in your school. Try some new things with your look cut your hair or dye it. I know that since you're shy you may be too self-conscience to do that. Discuss the way you're feeling with the people that love you the most in the world. Or maybe you want to try counseling... I know that may sound a little extreme but I sure that may help! Good luck let me know how things go!
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    Dec 31, 2008, 02:25 PM

    Sweety, I promise you, it will get better!
    I'm thirty now, with 5 kids, and a loving husband. Although I've been with him since I was 15, I was such a loner before that, at least you have friends, I didn't.

    Anyway, you've got a down to earth personality and better guys like that. You'll find someone.
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    Sep 16, 2010, 05:29 PM
    Don't be afraid to smile at those who you are attracted to. It will open doors. Be brave and put yourself out there. You may find that a steady boyfriend is not what you want, so be open to other experiences. Maybe pick out someone who appears to be in a similar situation, they don't have to be perfect, just treat them as you would like to be treated. Even if it doesn't work out you will feel great for having given to another. Build from there.

    Rob.
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    Sep 16, 2010, 06:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by loverob View Post
    Don't be afraid to smile at those who you are attracted to. It will open doors. Be brave and put yourself out there. You may find that a steady boyfriend is not what you want, so be open to other experiences. Maybe pick out someone who appears to be in a similar situation, they don't have to be perfect, just treat them as you would like to be treated. Even if it doesn't work out you will feel great for having given to another. Build from there.

    Rob.
    This a very old thread
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    Sep 17, 2010, 09:32 AM

    Thanks Kitkat
    Just felt the need to put it out there for anyone to read.

    Rob.
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    Sep 17, 2010, 09:41 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by loverob View Post
    Thanks Kitkat
    Just felt the need to put it out there for anyone to read.

    Rob.
    Thank You!:)

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