[jgirard22]

My wife says that I am selfish, and that everything we do or talk about is about me. I would consult with my family "father" on issues before her. I also would make rash decisions without asking her opinion or consent. At first I would argue with her about it or ignore the issue totally. I was just diagnosed with ADHD with signs of being impulsive. I just started medication for it. Now everything she has been saying seems to make sense. At first I didn't realize how horrible I had been treating her. Right now my wife is on her last nerve with me. She already threatened me with a divorce. How do I fix this mess? How do I gain her trust back? How do I do a 180 turn around from where I'm at now? I'm lost and I don't know what to do at this point. I love her and I don't want to lose her!

[Wondergirl]

Are you or will you be seeing a counselor to help you with the ADHD? Both of you need education about this, especially with the adult version, and help in dealing with it.

Would she divorce you if you had a brain tumor or prostate cancer?

[jgirard22]

Haha that is a good way to look at it I guess. Anyway yes I am seeing a counselor. I see her once every two weeks.

[Wondergirl]

Haha that is a good way to look at it I guess. Anyways yes I am seeing a counselor. I see her once every two weeks.

Ask the counselor to invite your wife to a couple of sessions. Call the counselor before the next session.

[jgirard22]

Sounds like a plan... thank you so much for your advice.

[martinizing2]

What a great idea. Learning about it together. Seems it would make understanding it easier for both.

[Homegirl 50]

Have you told your wife what you just told us?

[talaniman]

Be nice if she could go with you to counseling with you, other wise you just have to prove you are becoming more empathetic, and less impulsive, with actions.

Getting help and guidance is a great step though, to learning how to step back and think before you act, or speak.