[Apple Scruff]

But I'm already doubting myself and the situation. There is the girl who I've had the biggest crush on for the longest time, but I never had the courage to ask her out as I wasn't sure if she was interested, even though I picked up some subtle signs of interest. So today, I said 'screw it, I'm going to be a man and just ask her out. Well I made some small talk with her first, I wasn't nervous at all and I was enjoying the conversation. Then I said 'I wanted to ask you something.. would you like to go out for coffee or dinner sometime?" She said 'What?' because I guess she didn't hear me properly. I think my voice was too low, or I was nervous, there was a lady sitting close by, I sort of didn't want her to hear that I was asking a girl out. So I repeated the question a little louder, it seemed like she thought about it for a second, but then she said 'Sure'.

She said that this week wasn't any good because she was busy with a lot of stuff, she said maybe this Friday or Sunday. I asked for her number and she joked at first and said no, but then wrote it down for me. I see her a couple times a week where she works so she said she'd see me around.

Now, I'm sure anyone reading this would conclude that she is obviously interested because she said yes when I asked her out and she gave me her phone number.

But for some reason I'm doubting myself and the whole situation, thinking she isn't really interested but she felt sorry for me or something, or she didn't want to say no because I see her all the time and it would be awkward. And also because she said she couldn't do it this week and only said 'maybe' for Friday and Sunday.

So my big question is, and I'm sure some of you will think it's a pretty dumb question, but would a girl say yes when you ask her out if she wasn't interested in you?

I've been out of the game for so long, I'm finally over a breakup of a nearly 5 year relationship and I'm ready to start dating. I'm so rusty when it comes to women and this is the first girl that I've liked this much that I've actually got the courage to ask out! Am I reading to far into this? I mean, would she say yes and give me her phone number if she wasn't interested? And how do I proceed? When should I call her? I'll see her tomorrow actually, so what should I say to her? I just feel so awkward and so unsure of myself, please, someone give me some assurance what happened earlier tonight was definitely a good thing. I hate doubting myself over things like this.

[spitvenom]

Relax she said yes. When you go out don't have in your mind I am on date. Have in your mind I am having dinner or drinks with a friend. This way it will be a little less stressful for you. Be confident nothing will kill your chance if your don't seem confident.

[I wish]

After you call her to confirm for Friday or Sunday, you will have your answer.

Don't go second guessing yourself now, she already gave you her number and said yes. Second guessing yourself is second guessing her. You haven't even gone out on a date and you're telling us that you don't trust her already?

[ZoeMarie]

I had to spread the rep, I wish.

These guys are right. And furthermore, if you see this girl regularly, why would she lie to you? That would only make it awkward for herself when you run into her again. Don't worry. Have fun! And Spitvenom is right, don't think about it as a date, just think about it as hanging out and having fun.

[talaniman]

Proud of you guy for going for it. Now think of something specific to ask her to do with you Friday, and have fun if she is available, if she isn't, so what, just ask her when she is, and set a time and place.

The others are right, don't see this as a date, just hanging out having fun, getting to know each other more. Keep the attitude positive, and don't worry about results, or obstacles, as enjoying yourself is the goal, not romance.

Just be yourself. Find out a few things about her.

[jasmine99]

I have same dillema except I am a girl asking a cute guy. He said yes and then when I ask a time, he said this week he is busy, maybe next week? Then I am sitting on needles each day waiting he get back to me on if he is really available next week. Or maybe he is just politely brushing me off .