[Appeal18]

Right, I wished her Happy Birthday in advance. Left it at that, and got a reply saying thanks etc. Leaving it at that, and now I'm going to NC all the way.

Hopefully the wounds will mend sooner rather than later :)

[sohotitsscary]

Time is the best med :)

[amicon]

Stick to NC proper and they will.

[Appeal18]

Hey! A little update on where I'm at, at the minute. I've been sticking to NC since I broke it for my ex's birthday. Since then, I've had a few ups and downs.

Seen a few pictures appear in Facebook live feed, of her with 2 guys kissing her cheeks etc when she was out for her 18th, as well a guy she's closed to is there, and he tried to get with her when we first broke up in December.

We obviously don't speak anymore, and although I have kissed 2 girls, and she's found out, got mad etc, and then cracked kind of, being lovey on msn, unblocking me, posting certain things on her name etc. I do still care for her y'know, but I'm a lot calmer then I ever was.

What got brought to my attention is a close friend who is a girl. My ex keeps giving her dirty looks etc, and she's picked up on it. I don't know why my ex is acting like that, but oh well.

What's happened today is something I'm a bit annoyed at. She was at the bus stop, and my friends wound the window down, beeped the horn etc. While I was in the passenger seat. She looked at me, and her face dropped, and gave me a completely dirty look. I was busy shouting at my friends. Anyway, as I didn't do anything and tried to stop them, I will almost certainly get a worse rapport from her, and her friend was there, so more than likely her friend will be annoyed.

Well that's it from me, again thanks for all the replies so for.

[amicon]

Ignore your friends idea of a 'joke' and don't overanalyze her possible reactions.

Stay away from Facebook.

Stick to NC and keep moving forward.

[Appeal18]

Do you's think it's worth leaving my ex a text message apologising for my friends display early?

[talaniman]

NO!! He can apologize for his own actions can't he?

[Appeal18]

Yeah, but still, she'll think bad of me because of it no doubt.

[talaniman]

So what?

[Appeal18]

Not what I ideally want, when in an ideal world I would like to get back with her. As crazy as that may seem.

[talaniman]

After you have gotten over this and are open to more options and opportunities, I doubt that you feel that way, few do. Then even you will see what a crazy idea getting back with her is. Trust me on that one. The point is the healing process.

[Appeal18]

Yeah I suppose so. I'm not short of offers at the minute, be honestly don't feel ready for anything like that. Things bug me less than they would in the past. It's been nearly a month and half.

I get the ups and downs, and there is moments when I feel trapped. But there's nothing I can say to her that'll change things, no magic words or tricks or anything. It's only her who can do anything, if she decides to or not, I really don't know, doubtful. But I guess I can't just wait around, hoping on something that is unlikely to materialise.

But she has been "unfriendly" to a girl who is close friends to me. She always accused me of liking other people etc, and whenever I went out for a party, she'd question if I hooked up with anyone etc. I guess she was insecure.

But I have noticed changes in her, dress sense, attitude, etc. But maybe that's just a way of getting over things for her. Especially making new friendship with lots of guys etc.

[Appeal18]

Hey again, just another little update on what's going on. I was out at the weekend, and a friend of my ex's, and myself, I seen at a club. We got talking and he ended up saying "i left her alone when everyone was out, but she turned down every boy who tried to get with her." - Don't know what to make of that.

On Saturday night, my friend asked if we were getting back together, and I said I highly doubt it and asked him why, he said. "Her facebook status is, 'misses things? :(' and it sounds like you, and also the groups she's joining such as, 'i hate missing someone and not being able to do anything about it.'" - Again I don't know what to make of that?

Also last night my ex was out for someone I know 18th birthday, in town. Surprisingly I didn't worry at all, and it's the first time, that when she's went to town and I know, that I don't really care that much. However today, I had a little of a down patch, but I'm picking up again. :)

[amicon]

Keep on the upwards path-and don't bother with gossip,tell them you're not interested in the updates.

[Appeal18]

Yeah I suppose, I mean I know I shouldn't over analyse this, but it's just a glimmer of something I want as crazy as it seems - but yeah, I need to focus in one direction.

[amicon]

Don't fall into the trap of false hope-keep moving on.

Focus on you now,not on where she is at,based on hearsay.

[Appeal18]

Hmm, it's hard not too. Things have got a bit easier, but it's like when I get a little bit info, it means a lot more than its worth.

I don't know if it's "false hope" or just general info. But I know what needs to be done

[Devorameira]

You're doing pretty good with the NC. Keep up the good work.

It'll get easier everday without her!

[talaniman]

As long as you know what you're supposed to do, there will be no confusion.

[Appeal18]

I know what I "should be doing", but I know what I "want to be doing".

It's kind of forceful, and any indication from my ex, or potential sign makes me over-analyse, which I know I shouldn't.

People have been telling me to outright ask her out again or ask her if there's any future. But that'll do no good, then damage myself, and put me back to square one.