[Homegirl 50]

Leave the girl alone like you should have done in the first place.
We all told you that, but you were bound and determined to have her break up with that guy.
Now you are the heavy to her. You should have left her alone.

[talaniman]

Nothing, absolutely NOTHING, she will call again. Don't try to be her friend now, that's what girlfriends are for, unless you want to be in the same category as them.

[Homegirl 50]

I hope you understand now that if she talks to you, you are a rebound to her, she is talking to you just to get over her hurt, that you and your friends help cause by the way.
You were being selfish, looking out for what you wanted, not concerned about her at all. It will dawn on her or one of your friends will tell her how you wanted her to break up with her boyfriend so you could have a chance.
How do you think she will feel about that?

[whatisthis3]

no. She told me it wasn't me. She told me that don't think I broke up with him for you, it was for myself.
And I said OK.

Talaniman, so when she calls back, what do I do?

[whatisthis3]

And I edited the post, could you guys re read it?

[Homegirl 50]

You are now in friend zone, which is what she told you in the first place.
So be a friend

[whatisthis3]

Why am I in the friend zone? She told me she still likes me.
Like she is just extremely hurt because she broke up with him when he did nothing wrong. She broke up with him because she lost feelings for him, and couldn't deal with long term anymore, and just wanted to have a burden of her shoulders, she thought about breaking up with him before I came along

[Homegirl 50]

She may like you, but she may only want to be friends with you.
Leave her alone until she wants to talk to you.

[Homegirl 50]

Depending on what she says, you'll know whether she wants you as a boy friend or just a friend.
Getting another boyfriend after a break up is a big mistake.

[cdad]

You know what they end up calling friends with benefits??

The Plaintiff.


Start growing up and make better choices.

[whatisthis3]

Califdadof3 I don't get it.
And homegirl OK. Well, I understand that If she tries to rebound with me, I will make sure that she is over him. I will wait, and I will see it.
Also, like one week before this, the time when that new philosophy dawned on her,
I asked her if she still felt strongly about me as before, she said she does, but maybe not as much since I told one of her friends about us, and it made her really mad, and I just apologized she said it was OK.

But what does the friend or boyfriend thing depend on? Like if she says something? What's the something? Key things

[Homegirl 50]

If she decides she wants to date you, that would be a no no. She is still fresh from a break up and that is not a good time to get involved with anyone until you are over the person.

[whatisthis3]

Yeah we agreed that if we wanted to start talking to each other like actual liking each other and showing it, shed get over him first.


Do I have a chance? Or am I LJBF zoned.

[Homegirl 50]

I don't know. It depends on how much she liked you and how she liked you from the beginning.
It depends on if there was also someone else in the picture.

[whatisthis3]

Well I think a lot, but that's just me. Like I know she cares about me a lot. Cause she always said she liked me and her ex the same. And she did break up with him yesterday. And they were going out for nearly two years.
What do you mean by someone else?

[Homegirl 50]

She could have been liking someone else too, just like she was liking you. She could have been flirting with someone else.
Or someone else can come along. She is free now for the first time in two years, she may want to hold on to that freedom.

[I wish]

Try reading this thread, it might give you some insight: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

Things aren't looking so great unfortunately.

If she broke up with her boyfriend to be with you, who knows how easy it will be to break up with you to be with someone else. How can you ever trust her completely?

Or else, this might all be going in your mind and she does not have any interest in you. She just sees you as as really good friend. So you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

If she does get together with you, she's most likely on the rebound and that's not fair to you. What happens when she's done rebounding?

But there's always that outside chance that this might all work out.

The question is, are you willing to take that risk?

[whatisthis3]

Thanks I wish.

She does have interest, cause she told me.
So She did call me yesterday. But she just talked to me like we were good friends, mentioned nothing about breaking up. Today at school as well, just normal. How long should I keep it normal till? Till she talks to me about relationship stuff?

She flirts too. But I don't know, I try not too but sometimes I do.

[Som3Guy]

Hi. I was kind of in the same situation as you except the girl didn't actually say she liked me but was flirting a lot. I think that I Wish got it right there. I'll repeat the question. "Are you willing to take the risk?" It's up to you bro, I hope you can make the right the decision and that everything works for you. Cya :)

[I wish]

If you've already told her how you feel, then the ball is on her side of the court. It's up to her if she wants something to happen and it's up to her to bring it up. You don't need to bring it up again.