[xshorty_jessx]

And why does he think I don't trust him because of that stupid writing stuff like that and stirring up it's doing my head in

[racquel58]

Hmmm... I definitely think you need to see a dr about the depression. Trust me, I know its hard. But its worthwhile! YOU need to be healthy so you can have a healthy relationship!

At first, I wasn't sure about the girl... I wasn't sure if maybe you would just have to communicate your feelings and deal with her flirting as long as your boyfriend isn't.

BUT then you said that he said 'dont message her because she will make stuff up and wind us both up'. WHY is he saying she will 'make stuff up?'... what is she going to make up? How does he know this! Is he trying to hide something, and so if you do message her and she says something you won't like, he is covering in advance by warning she will 'make stuff up?'

OR if genuinly will make stuff up, why does he want her as a friend? Why not cut contact? I wouldn't want a friend that does that.

I think you need to dump him and leave him to his silly girls. He will be the same with them. Please don't waste years of not trusting someone, being jealous, angry, trying to change yourself etc for someone else. Its not worth it.

[xshorty_jessx]

Lately my boyfriend is acting a bit strange, he tells me that he thinks I don't trust him which I do? But sometimes I wonder what he is paranoid about. He was on a night out before and I texted him saying I've just seen him as a joke because I joke a lot, and for some reason he went off his head at me and almost split with me but why be like that over a silly little joke and he accused me of playing games and trying to catch him out, but catch him out with what??
There's this girl who writes to him on Facebook flirty messages and she has done it since the first day of going out and she won't stop! It's been nearly 4 month now! And the other night I finally lost it and told her to get lost and find her own boyfriend and she called me all sorts and I told my boyfriend, and he went mad at me for writing to her but went mad at her to for calling me, but not as mad as I expected him to get I sometimes get the impression that he likes her flirting with him! He should have just stopped contact to her! Seen as it's not just me telling him to get rid even his mates tell him! And he ended up having a "serious" chat with me the day after telling me it's driving him mad me checking up on him when I wasn't I went to write a nice message on his wall and she was there! It shouldn't be me he is having a serious chat with it should be her!
So here I am really confused with his behavior and this morning, he texted me telling me he was meeting his girl mate on Friday, on his day off from work for a few drinks which I don't mind but it did upset me a bit because I also have a day off and he has decided to spend it with this lass! It seemed like he was testing me for some reason, I just texted back saying okay, and he seemed gob smacked? So what's that all about, I don't like the way he is acting towards me at all lately! I feel as if I am getting treated wrong and I also think he only wants me during the week and his mates at weekend and I feel really left out an angry at him with the way he's been. What do I do? He seems to think he is perfect and isn't doing ought wrong even though I feel unhappy!

[dynocompe]

Omg drop him like a hot potato

[Romefalls19]

Okay... Harshness Warning

I'd be mad too if you started messaging my friends flipping out on them. Ask before you do something like that! He has a friend who's a girl, he wants to spend time with friends, he doesn't have to spend every waking hour with you! I live with my fiancé and I still go out with my friends, sometimes they are girls. It's called trust. You get upset over the little things, he has a life outside of you, perhaps you should get one too.

If you can't handle Facebook in a mature manner GET Off IT! Kids these days put too much weight on those stupid sites. OMG he has that girl in his top friends. I'm not his top friend. He doesn't love me. Get off it!

[amicon]

This thread was merged with your most recent one,where you mention being depressed.
If you think this is the case,make an appointment to see your GP and get help.

How do you spend your time?
See your own friends and do things you enjoy.

People need to see their friends and do things apart.
Being together 24/7 isn't healthy.

[dynocompe]

WHen one of his friends of the opposite sex is hitting on him and fighting with his own GF over him! You do not hang out with her, just the two of you! She has a reason to be mad here, and shouldn't be wondering why he is doing this, but rather just breaking up with this loser of a BF. This girls intentions are not just to be HIS friend.
Being depressed or not , his behaviour is one that should not have to be tolerated!

[Romefalls19]

Dyno, he's not going out with that friend. Reread the post, it just says he's going out for drinks with a girl. It doesn't say that it's the same girl. The OP should clarify that, but I'm not going to assume it.

She has a huge dependency problem that she needs to seek counseling for

[dynocompe]

Ohh haha sorry I read it as it being that girl. She said mate lol, to me mate means something different here in canada, then a lot of the eastern countries lol.

[Romefalls19]

Lol yea, it took me awhile to get used to as well. When I hear mate, I think relationship partner

[xshorty_jessx]

I just think he is testing me because I was going to go out so I asked him if he was going out all night and he went mental at me saying I don't let him do ought but I didn't even say anything like that!

[Romefalls19]

I think you both play too many games. Never have I seen so many games played, you telling him you're dating him just as a joke. Really? Did you think that was a good idea?

[xshorty_jessx]

No you have that wrong! I said I text him saying I've just seen him as a joke and he went mad! I am not playing any kind of game with him because I isn't like that. But he is always going on about his ex but with what he tells me about her, I'm nothing like that, maybe he is just worried I'll end up like her I don't know what is going on in his mind!

[talaniman]

Maybe that's the whole problem. Two people who have issues and don't know what to do about it, can't help, love, and support each other because they have their own issues, blinding them.

[xshorty_jessx]

I have posted a lot of posts on here about what's going on this week because so many changes are happening, and I am beginning to find it hard to cope! My boyfriend is acting proper off with me lately, I hear that he talks about me to my mates and his mates telling them I do his head in, and that he wants to be with his mates at weekends and me during week, but I'm sorry I only see him 3 times in the week, I don't think he is being fair, I am really beginning to dislike him, I mean he told me that this weekend we could spend time together as he is going on a trip next week with the lads and next thing you know he is telling me he is off to his mates house for some beer, he's let me down and hurt me doing this! And I told him I was going to my mates party on Friday and he has gone and said he is coming? What's that all about? So basically he's allowed to come out with me but I isn't allowed to go out with him? Anyway I confronted him and said it feels like you can't be arsed with me these days, and he text back saying of course I can I just want to go out more with the guys, but you can come if you like but don't give me any ! Any? What the hell does he think that for so I text back saying what am I going to give you proper confused! And he didn't say ought and just told me his mates girlfriend will be there so I won't be only girl and it was like he was being all nice after me confronting him! And a few hours on I text him telling him how much he meant to me telling him I loved him and all I got back was do you really and I said of course I love you, I love you like you love me, well I hope so and he text back saying I do but sometimes I hate you. I found that really horrible! And I said I didn't want to lose him and he told me that I wouldn't if I changed my ways, but I'm not doing ought wrong? I let him go out but he can't expect to go out every weekend without seeing me because it makes me feel neglected! You might not understand me and think I am being in the wrong but I don't think I am, I think he is finding a way of making me out to be a bad one which I'm really not. I just feel so lonely at the moment, he's got to start treating me right though! Before I have big regrets! Sometimes I get the feeling that he misses single life but come on for gods sake he is 24, I thought he was different from the rest, how wrong was I? But I am beginning to hate men sorry for men who read this but I haven't come across a decent one yet sick of being mistreated! When I have perfectly nothing wrong with me!

[Hot water]

Perhaps a "break" would help the two of you find out what you really want. That'll either fix things or show that it's time for an actual break up.

[xshorty_jessx]

break? He said he doesn't do all that, so if we were to have this brake he wouldn't get back with me =[ I just feel really unhappy in myself! I just feel like life is pointless

[dynocompe]

This is what I would do, he is giving you no attention right, and you are trying sooooo hard to get attention from him. Well right now, in his mind, he has his girlfriend wrapped around his little finger. He knows he can do what he wants and you put up with it.
Is what you should do is show him NO ATTENTION whatsoever!! Only put in as much effort into the relationship as he does. If you can see right now, all this effort you focusing on your relationship is only pushing your boyfriend away. So if you really want him to start wanting you again, MAKE HIM MISS YOU! So I would completely stop texting him, don't ask him to hang out, just do your own thing! If you continue to just nag him, and beg for him to hang out with you and get angry over the fact that he isn't showing you the attention you deserve, this relationship will die.
Just try this advice, you have nothing to lose, the relationship is going bottoms up!
WHen you stop texting him, asking him to hang out, he will notice this, and will be coming to you.
When he confronts you about this, just pretend like nothing is wrong, that your having a fabulous time without him.

[xshorty_jessx]

I found out why he is being weird with me, it's because his gran is really ill, I feel kind of selfish now, but my instincts was telling me they were something up with him!

[dynocompe]

i found out why he is being weird with me, it's coz his gran is really ill, i feel kinda selfish now, but my instincts was telling me they was something up with him!

This is most likely an excuse in my opinion