[HeartTrips]

Its so obvious to everybody here, this is nothing new... she is holding onto you until she finds somebody else... dont let her do that to you, don't do it to yourself.

If its true love, if she is the one,

Go nocontact for a year and see if you both want to be together.

[Country_Girl]

I say she is just trying to make you jealous if I broke up with a boyfriend over 2 years and a guy texts me begging for me back which had happened to me before then I would make him jealous. And if what you are saying is true then she still is in love with you I promise. Take it from a girls point of view. Just tell her face to face you want her back your still in love and that you don't want yalls love to fade away. And tell her you will be a better person and you will change. And I promise you it will all work out.

[jmlcowboys06]

Well a little update... Someone told her and her family I had been trashing them, which was untrue and that led to a cancellation in our date. We talked today, and I am finally letting go. I think I'm okay with it too. Hurt for a while, but the pain has numbed itself and subsided. I am learning to not hurt anymore, and I have learned I hurt whenever I think about her being okay with leaving me. I think the thought of her moving on first hurt. I love her but can't sit her and let her tell me I annoy her and she doesn't want me etc. I can be a better man for someone else, and someone else will be very happy with me and vice versa. To the guy with the Stewie avatar. Thanks for being brutally honest, and I apologize for my love-blind mindset. I wasn't willing to accept the truth, but have now and you were right. I have a lot of work to do to better myself for my next relationship. I just feel guilty now about losing my virginity to this girl. I wanted that girl to be "the one". That might sound gay or unmanly, but it's just how I felt. I feel like I may be depriving my next partner if they are still a virgin. Advice?

[88sunflower]

I say good for you!
You have hit reality and you can work on moving on and being a better man. You have realized it and that's a wonderful feeling isn't it? You have come to accept what will never be again and that's what's important right now.

As far as losing your virginity to her, well what's done is done. You can't dwell on that now. It was a special time for you both, you both will remember that the rest of your lives. But just look ahead and be thankful for the next girl, virgin or not. Things work out for a reason. You made a choice to bed her down and she isn't the one your going to marry. So be it.

Be strong during these holidays. It's that time of year when memories hit the hardest and can bring you down.

[talaniman]

Acceptance is the first step in moving on, even though it will be hard. Read the stickies (ALL OF THEM) on how to do this No Contact thing the right way, and stay humble.

[jmlcowboys06]

Little update for those interested. I had been suspecting another possible reason. Due to past experiences, you don't just drop love unless there is hope for better. Well to me she was a needy person, and wouldn't just leave me to be alone. Her past says otherwise, she has always jumped out of one relationship straight into another. So I thought what would be different this time? After a little Facebook stalking, I noticed the guy I had suspected (he had been telling her how gorgeous she was on her pictures) told her happy thanksgiving baby. So that pretty much sewed up the loose ends to my theory. Then to remove all doubt, last night I got a call from a friend of mine, who is a Sheriff's Deputy, telling me that my ex had a bad wreck and rolled her car on the way home from his house, and the guy was out there with her holding her and her hands. Once again, I was lied to by her. Karma possibly for her? I mean if she hadn't been sneaking behind my back with him, which I believe is what led to our breakup, this wouldn't have happened. The more I look at it, I wasn't at fault, she had started being moody the past 3 weeks and I believe that was when she started talking with him and got the idea I was no longer indispensable. Thus leading to the increased fighting, and we had an argument and I think she saw it as a way out and a way into a new relationship. Also explaining why she didn't want to get back together and gave it absolutely no chance no matter what. Have it her way, I hope she is all right, but will not be "checking up" on her. It's no longer my place and if she wants me to know of what has happened she would contact me. I know her, she has a past of being open legged, if you know what I mean. She had sex with me the day after we started dating, and we had only been "talking" about 3 weeks prior. Me and her have been apart 3 weeks, and if she is already staying out at this guys till 11 at night when she has class the next day, I'm sure he is getting it too. I won't lie, it bothered me deeply when I first heard where she had been after she wrecked... I guess it was like a knife to the heart. To me, that's the point of no return. We can never go back, it is like a family keepsake falling off a boat in the ocean and you can never get it back. Its over.

[amicon]

Yes it's over and now that you know you can start moving on and heal from this.
Sometimes people aren't who we'd hope and wish for-it's a learning experience.

[Devorameira]

Sorry about the end of your relationship. Breaking up is never easy, but it's best that it happened before you got in even deeper.

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How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. - Wayne Dyer