[robz279]

Hiya,


I am 22 years old mother.I had a baby 5 months ago
I and my husband love each other very much.He look
After me and cares a lot.
Actually after giving birth to a baby my own life has finished,I mean my own activities.24 hours I have to look after the baby which is a very hard work.

Now what is I feel very low and sad without any reason.I argue with my husband for small things.He used to tell me everythin which now he doesn't .That makes me feel very angry and sad and I feel that there is somthin not good going on ,which I know is that just my imagination,but still I feel very cruel.I want him to give me most of his time which he can't because he's working.

There is a girl in his office .I know her ,she's a good friend of my hubby.Usually she and my husband both go out together for a lunch during his lunch time at office.He told me about this.What happened that today he lied to me about her that he with some other boy from his office instead of hers.I know he's lying!
Why is that??
Is there anything wrong with me??

[Cat1864]

No matter how much it feels like it, your life is not over because you had a baby (yes, I did read your other question about the baby and napping). You are exhausted and possibly depressed added to your body still trying to go back to a non-pregnant norm.

What is wrong with you is that you need help and sleep. At this moment, you are driving a wedge between yourself and your husband and building up a lot of resentment that is boiling over into arguments. I think you probably have some envy issues with him being able to get out of the house while you feel trapped.

When he is home, does your husband help with the child or the house? Do you allow him to help or do you keep him from helping?

Is there anyone who can take care of the baby for an hour a day?

You need help with the baby. You need sleep. You need time to yourself. You probably need marriage counseling to help you both deal with the changes going on in your relationship.

[Devorameira]

I'm not a doctor, but I know women that suffered from some of the same symptoms you seem to be having. I think you should make an appointment with your OB-GYN who delivered your baby. Some women (about 10%) experience postpartum depression which continues until they get the proper medication. Postpartum depression is a true clinical depression triggered by childbirth.
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You only told us at few details, so I don't know if you have any additional symptoms or not, but I found the following information on a website. You can search on postpartum depression and see if the symptoms fit.

A woman with postpartum depression may feel sad, tearful, despairing, discouraged, hopeless, worthless, or alone. She also may:

•have trouble concentrating or completing routine tasks
•lose her appetite or not feel interested in food
•feel indifferent to her baby or not feel attached or bonded
•feel overwhelmed by her situation and feel that there is no hope of things getting better
•feel like she is just going through the motions of her day without being able to feel happy, interested, pleased, or joyful about anything
Feelings and thoughts like these are painful for a woman to experience — especially during a time that is idealized as being full of happiness. Many women are reluctant to tell someone when they feel this way. But postpartum depression is a medical condition that requires attention and treatment.

Postpartum depression can affect any woman — but some may be more at risk for developing it. Women who have battled depression at another time in their lives or have one or more relatives who have had depression might have a genetic tendency to develop postpartum depression.

Most postpartum depression is thought to be related to fluctuating hormone levels that affect mood and energy. Levels of estrogen and progesterone that have increased during pregnancy drop suddenly after delivery. In some cases a woman's thyroid hormone may decrease, too.

These rapid hormone shifts affect the brain's mood chemistry in a way that can lead to sadness, low mood, and depression that lingers. Stress hormones may have an added effect on mood. Some women may experience this more than others. Good luck.

[Cat1864]

Just to add a bit of clarification to my post and her story:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...ll-417444.html

The baby is taking one nap (and usually not a long one) a day. She hasn't said how he sleeps at night.