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amicon · Sep 30, 2009, 11:09 AM

Trust me once you make your mind up it fades quicker then you might think.

harriejansen · Oct 6, 2009, 04:22 AM

Back in worktown, so at just 300 metres of her! But much much better than last month. I just went shopping for clothes with a girlfriend (not romantic) and that was good. Hanging in here!

amicon · Oct 6, 2009, 04:30 AM

Good to hear-not shopping weather here-pouring down rain.
You re on the right path now!

harriejansen · Oct 6, 2009, 08:12 AM

I am on the right path, but still shaky, I can't understand how she can be so mad that she does not want to talk to me! What did I do?? Anyway, I am getting better and better.

amicon · Oct 6, 2009, 08:34 AM

There are so many things we ll never understand and so many questions that will never be answered.
After some time all that becomes unimportant and a thing of the past.
Trust me on that one.

harriejansen · Oct 6, 2009, 02:59 PM

I know Monica, have had experience in the past, although it seems I have a strong tendency to dwell on things...

amicon · Oct 7, 2009, 02:14 AM

It just takes time Harrie and you had that setback a while ago.
We re all the total of our previous experiences and we grow with each new one however hurtful they seem at the time.

harriejansen · Oct 13, 2009, 05:39 AM

Small update... I am getting incredibly fit do to working out a lot and cycling.. I am in worktown and must admit I did some stalking.. why does she have to live almost right in sight of me! Anyway, I have started to date a little bit, and have a lot of success... We'll see how it goes. Still not over her but wayyyyyy better!

amicon · Oct 13, 2009, 06:00 AM

Accidental stalking I hope!
Good luck with the dating and keep getting better.

harriejansen · Oct 21, 2009, 02:27 PM

Hi friends. Still lurking here. I have to say I feel a lot better than I did when I came here! However, I still think of her almost all the time. Without the desperate emotions, but still. I sometimes look at her Facebook foto (that is all I can see) and have the idea she is still alone.

Am I normal to still think about her so much? Should I act on it?

talaniman · Oct 21, 2009, 02:48 PM

Stop staring at her photo, and continue leaving her alone. Stay away from that web page and I'll bet you won't think about her as much.

amicon · Oct 22, 2009, 12:25 AM

Tal said it very well but I ll add my two cents-every time you look at her picture you take a step back-dont do it!:-)

harriejansen · Nov 9, 2009, 12:33 PM

Hey guys, back again. My oldest son had a bad accident with his scooter, he is fine but it was a scare and 3 weeks hospital! The good thing that came out of it that finally after 5 years I am talking with my ex-wife again (about the kids that is!)

Anyway, I had a low moment, thought about HER way too much and then wrote her an email, telling her about my son, and telling her I think about her, that I still miss her etc. bla bla bla. Although well written, you will hate me for this!

Anyway, I am still not over her. I must have a problem!

amicon · Nov 9, 2009, 01:31 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your son-hopefully well on the mend now!
Well that w a s naughty of you- but Ill not give you a big telling off-you know the drill by now.
You lived in hope for so long that's why you ve still got a way to
Go.
All the best from rainy old England.
We even had SNOW the other day.

harriejansen · Dec 24, 2009, 11:15 AM

Hello friends! Just to keep you in the loop. I am still not cured, but guess I learned to live with it. Yesterday I "saw" her on meetic... she has put a profile there... I clicked on it, she also on mine, and then she proceeded to remove her picture... Wonder what she is thinking... ah well...

amicon · Dec 24, 2009, 11:32 AM

All I can say is feliz navidad.
And all the best for 2010.

harriejansen · Mar 18, 2010, 04:43 AM

Hi guys! Checking back in. You have been here for me in the worst times. I am doing fine now, although I still think about her a lot, but it doesn't hurt anymore. Something curious happened, she "unblocked" me in Facebook, that means, I can search for her and find her again. I won't contact her, but was thinking, does that mean anything?

talaniman · Mar 18, 2010, 05:47 AM

Whether they like you, or not, they get curious, especially if you have disappeared from their lives.

harriejansen · Mar 18, 2010, 07:25 AM

My Facebook is admitting non friends to see part of the content, so she is able to see some posts and pictures. Do I change that now? Do I block her? Or just leave it be?

harriejansen · Mar 22, 2010, 03:00 AM

Anybody any ideas on this?