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    metallicaxox Posts: 13, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 21, 2009, 11:26 AM
    Boyfriend doesn't like/want sex, again
    So I'm back with the same problem as before, except this time, we have moved out and have been living together for just over a month. Before we moved out he promised that our non-exsisting super lame sex life would be better and improve, well it hasn't. Whenever I make a hint that I would like to have some fun before bed or whenever, he will heave a big sigh and roll his eyes like I'm asking him to wash the dishes or take out the garbage. He treats it like a chore! He says that he doesn't want it as much as I do, but honestly I only want it maybe 2 or 3 times a week.. (mostly because that's all I can get).

    I have heard that there are some foods that can up his sex drive, but I don't know any of them.

    Also is there anything I can do to make it more enjoyable for him? And am I asking for it too much, only 2-3 times a week? I'm just very confused and sexually frusterated.

    Thanks for your help!
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    Aug 21, 2009, 12:02 PM

    You're best bet would be to talk to him honestly and ask (without judgement) why he feels his libido is so low.

    If he's not feeling well, it could affect his mood. Its also possible that he has a naturally low drive.

    Try being more subtle as well. Spend some quiet time together and cuddle on the couch, etc. that could help get things "going" if you kwim. If he feels like you're nagging, lay off for a while and see what happens. Maybe the pressure is getting to him.
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    Aug 21, 2009, 12:08 PM

    I have tried talking to him, and I do a lot but he just gets upset about it so I can't talk to him much. I'm at my wits end, I don't know what else to do.. I don't think I ask himthat much, and I am being as subtle as possible.. I don't know.. maybe I should just accept the fact that he doesn't want it.
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    Aug 21, 2009, 12:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by LearningAsIGo View Post
    You're best bet would be to talk to him honestly and ask (without judgement) why he feels his libido is so low.

    If he's not feeling well, it could affect his mood. Its also possible that he has a naturally low drive.

    Try being more subtle as well. Spend some quiet time together and cuddle on the couch, etc., that could help get things "going" if you kwim. If he feels like you're nagging, lay off for a while and see what happens. Maybe the pressure is getting to him.
    Thank you for your help
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    Aug 22, 2009, 12:00 PM

    I really don't know what to do. I have talked to him countless times but I don't think its gets through to him that I'm hurting and I miss spending those intimate moments with him. He keeps saying that he's sorry, but now I've heard it so many times, they are just empty words to me. Also he's more interested in his computer games and getting a high score than making me happy and speding intimate time with me.. I don't know what to do I feel like crying every night.

    This probably sounds really silly to some of you, but to me this is a problem and I need help.

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