[strength92]

about three days my boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me out of no where over something he thinks I did... here's the story


so on Friday night me and my boyfriend and his brother were going to play pool well they were playing and I was watching since I do not play... before we leave his house I ask him as to how long were going to be there he says one hour tops suchbull#$%^... needless to say I already new I would be there longer then I bargained for... so we get there and everything is all fine and dandy about one hour in to him playing pool he starts ignoring me like I'm not even in the room... now thinking to myself he's just having fun he'll come and check on me soon... well a couple hours flew by and he still did not come up to check on me to say "bae are you hungry,thirsty ,ready to go... so I'm getting rather upset about the situatiion... beacause we were there from 9:50 to 1:25 in the morning now that's a really long time to be ignored by some one... so after awhile more of his friends start showing up and he continues to ignore me so I'm lie you no what I've had enough I'm really upset with him but couldn't tell him that because he was to busy playing... but what really gets me is the fact that his own brother even squezzed a little bit of conversation time in wit me just to check on me... imagine that some boyfriend I have huh... now after that this man comes and sits next to me now I'm 17 years old and this grown man is trying to talk to me... now I'm not a disrespectful person ta grown people so when he spoke to me I spoke back I didn't really want to engage in conversation and he could tell that I didn't either so he left me alone for awhile then came back... asking my name where I live do I have a man can I take you home... and I was very I don't want to say scared but it was along those lines... so I'm trying to end the conversation as quickly as possible but he just keeps talking to me... so after awhile the guy starts saying that my boyfriend is a real because he hasn't once come to check up on me... and the person that I am I defended him saying no he's not he's just having fun is all... even thoe I really did want to admit he was acting like... anyways I believe my boyfriend thinks that I was talking to this man when I was simpliy defending him the whole time...



now as we get in to the car he's upset with me I didn't no why at the time but I assumed it was because of the guy... he drops me of and doesn't speak to me for two days now I finally get fed up wit it and... the only way I new he would respond to me is if I broke up wit him of COURSE I DID NOT WANT TO DO THAT... but he did respong and agreed... LATER THAT NIGHT I WROTE HIM A MESSAGE SAYING THAT I LOVE HIM AND THIS IS SO STUPID AND PETTY... AND I DO NOT WANT TO BREAK UP... needless to say he returned my sim card... yes I did give him a cell phone... and since then he hasn't talked to me he does have another cell phone but I do not have the number to that one...

in a way I feel guilty about the whole thing but he didn't handle it like an adult should... he's 20 and acts 5 years old,. now this may sound wrong but I put his feeling before mine just so that we can get threw the day with out arguing...


BUT Anyway CAN ANYONE HELP ME AND TELL ME IF YOU THINK HELL COME BACK TO ME

[rb25]

Something else was bothering him. Did he invite you to the play hall or did you invite yourself? Cause maybe he didn't want you there but I don't know. If he cared, he would have asked how you were doing or needed something instead of ignoring you.

You have already answered many of your own questions. Do you really want to be around this guy who treats you like a wall when he's out with you? I don't think you do... Your not happy it seems, you want him to change but he can only change himself. Take some time apart... And put YOU first. Not this guy.

Maybe than he will realize what he really lost. You

[Wondergirl]

Your problems started before that night, not during that night. What had happened between the two of you before that night?

[strength92]

That's the thing he invited me to go with...


And nothing happned before that night well nothing thtat I can remember right now

[Wondergirl]

Why did you go? It sounds like you expected to leave a lot earlier (was that the case before this?) or get a lot more attention from him. He apparently wanted to play pool.

Why didn't you call a cab and go home?

[strength92]

I went because I don't really get to c him that much since he always has ta wrk... I didn't mind how long we stayed there I just didn't want to be ignored like I wasn't there that's what really getts me... and I didn't have ne money and plus I didn't live that fa from the place so I could have walked but it was dark and I didn't want any thing to happen to myself

[rb25]

Im not trying to be rude, am trying to just help you out. Because am in the same boat or have been before.

Stop making excuses for this guy. That's what your doing. Something else may have been going on to why he was acting the way he was... Hes being insecure / jealous over something. Communication is a strong key to having things work out in a relationship and he is refusing to communicate with you from what it seems.

You need to let it go. Don't contact him at all please. Let him contact you. Its very hard and this is the only way you'll get real answers.

[strength92]

Thank you for your advice


I've been trying to just get threw the days that I haven't talked to him its really hard thoe because I love them so much...


And your correct I have great communication but him... yeah that's a laugh its like he can't stand to communicate at all it really pisses me of sometimes... but thts who he is and afta awhile I jiust get uset to it... if he does contact me I really don't no what I should tell him...

[rb25]

thank you for your advice


i've been trying to just get threw the days that i havent talked to him its really hard thoe because i love em so much...


and your correct i have great communication but him .... yeah thats a laugh its like he can't stand to communicate at all it really pisses me of sometimes........ but thts jus who he is and afta awhile i jiust get uset to it ...... if he does contact me i really dont no what i should tell him .......

You don't tell him anything. That's just it, you got your answer. I know its hard, really I feel your pain because am currently in a rut myself. I put myself through it 3 times already with this girl and guess what, I love her a lot. But I'm tired of going back to the same spot , going back to the same road block that has made me fall 3 times already.

Right now all your feeling is that empty void. You need to fill it back up with YOU, FRIENDS, FAMILY. This will make things so much better. Don't worry about him. Worry about you and how great you are. His true loss. Not yours, so don't blame yourself. He is losing you.

[Wondergirl]

if he does contact me i really dont no what i should tell him .......

Don't tell him anything. Ignore him. (And please don't post here in chat-speak.)

[strength92]

Yeah it is his loose I was a great girlfriend ta him and he messed it all up... but that's all right some body beeter will come along better then he was