[Adam18]

I feel so stressed out...
I get stress from my relationship with my girlfriend, my mum and step dad, my dad and my friends.
I also feel very stressed out about my future... (I am 18 and still in education) I want the best for myself and I want to make my family proud and happy but sometimes I have doubts about my ability.
I also worry about the things that are happening at the moment I.e. house prices, crime and recession are going to effect me when I am older.
I worry about whether I will end up marrying the girl that I love.
My parents are constantly at each others throats and it brings me down.
How can I stop myself from stressing out?

[manishpowar]

Hi
Firstly let us separate the issues. Firstly the things happening outside and around you- which you cannot do anything about. Second, the things that are happening inside of you-which can be dealt with.
Three things that you mentioned that you are experiencing- Doubt,Worry and Fear.
Deal with these first.

[0rphan]

Hi Adam,

At the moment you trying to carry the weight of the world on your young shoulders.

I can understand you wanting the best for yourself in the future, that's only natural but to worry about the world in the future is too much.

Everyone thinks about how the world will turn out, but they also realise that there are persons higher up in the constitution to deal with each world situation as it happens, it's what they train for, so give that to them and let them worry about it, that's what we pay them for.

You can only do your very best in your studies, and I am sure you will do well,no one can ask more of you, so stop beating yourself up over it.

Only time will tell who you will marry,it is said that there is a perfect partner for everyone out there,I'm sure one day you will both meet,at the moment you are very young and have many years to find that person.
If you and your current girlfriend aren't working out, end it, you don't need to put up with the stress, there is a choice.

If your friends are causing problems, find new friends, spread your wings, you don't have to stick to the same group all the time, sometimes relationships no matter with whom can just go stale,it's time to move on.

AS for your parents/step parent leave them to argue amongst themselves, it's not your problem, try and get a break away, stay elsewhere if you can, or try talking to them telling them how you feel.

I think Adam you are worrying far too much, to the point of obsession, I would advise that you go speak to your GP explain how you have been feeling, he may give you something on a temporary basis to help you relax, which will help you get things back in perspective again... you should be enjoying your young life and not stressing out on everyone else's behalf.

Takecare