[hoks]

I am friends with this girl and I always liked her I met her over the summer and we clicked. I was scared to ask her out and tell her how I felt but I finally did after waiting a long time and she told me that if I had only done it sooner there would have been hope. She said that we could still be friends. I said no I didn't want to be her friend and I was going to forget her because it would hurt too much to be her friend and see her and him together. I want to know was that the right thing to do or not. Should I have done something differently. I love her and I lost what little I had of her I need help.

[ConfusedandLost]

I think you are a bit confused here, yes you love her... but you are not "in love" with her. It takes a lot more than a friendship for that feeling to hit you, trust me you will know when that feeling rushes towards you like a truck. You could be infatuated with her too...

Now as for your response, I think you totally handled this wrong. You two were friends and never crossed that line. No awkward feelings and what not to handle. What is wrong with simply being her friend and having a good time. Obviously she has some feelings but is committed to her current relationship and is doing the right thing and honoring it. It would continue being friends but DO NOT view her as a potential mate, go out and explore and date other people, who knows someday the timing may be right and the two of you may end up together. Just don't make that the focus or desired conclusion... if you do, you will most certainly lose her in all. Be happy with what you have now...

Oh... life is only hell if YOU make it that way :)

[hoks]

I mean is I fell in love with her over the summer and I was scared because this other girl had hurt me last summer and I was afraid of telling the current girl I loved her due to this insecurity. I mean it would tear me apart to be her friend and see her with this guy and all the while knowing that if it wouldn't have been for me being a coward I would have been him. Just thinking about it hurts. Oh and trust me I love her every time I'm near her I'm dizzy I can't get her out of my head and I say goofy stuff when I'm with due to me not being able to keep a clear thought. I would do anything for her so that's why I backed away I don't want to be jealous of this guy and my emotions spillin out like decking the guy. I didn't love her a first but over time as we got to know each other I started to fall slowly but then hard and I felt alive when I'm with her. When she tld me about the other guy I almost passed out so yes I love her.