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b4bharath_10 · Jul 23, 2009, 03:29 AM

A different situation ever happened with me ,let me explain.. when I am doing MBA my classmate proposed me but I have rejected her and started avoiding but she asked me to be like a friend as earlier.. so slowly I started talking with her and as the days are passing on we became very close but now she is getting married.. and now that I relised I too love her a lot but we don't want to disturb our families any more but I am unable the bear the situtation kindly advise me what to do .

N0help4u · Jul 23, 2009, 04:16 AM

Did she tell you she was seeing somebody else and wanted to just be friends or is this an arranged marriage where she doesn't have any say?

b4bharath_10 · Jul 23, 2009, 04:57 AM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

Did she tell you she was seeing somebody else and wanted to just be friends or is this an arranged marriage where she doesn't have any say?

No this is an arranged marriage where she tried to avoid 2-3 proposals earlier but this time she left her opnion to her parents to make them happy and she is bound to it now

N0help4u · Jul 23, 2009, 05:07 AM

That's sad I never could understand how any country in this day and age can make someone be miserable for a life time by still using arranged marriages. I think it can be like a prison sentence. They worked in the Old Testament but I think they are archaeic for today.
Short of her running off with you (which is highly unlikely) I don't see any way around it like you said she is bound.
I think people in arranged marriages can get divorced in some countries, in some cases.
But its usually the guy with that option

IDK I do feel bad for her.

HelpinHere · Jul 24, 2009, 10:23 PM

By the information you have told us, I would guess that you do not love her in a romantic way. I would say you love her in a friendly way.
You don't want her for yourself, or you wouldn't have rejected her. You just want what's best for her. You don't think he is best for her, and don't want her to marry him.

I could be wrong, but that is what I have assumed from the information provided.

If this is so, I recommend just telling her how you feel, and being there if she would ever need you.

If it is something else entirely, please come back to elaborate.

CanadianCrook · Jul 25, 2009, 06:45 AM

Originally Posted by b4bharath_10

A different situation ever happened with me ,let me explain .. when i am doing MBA my classmate proposed me but i have rejected her and started avoiding but she asked me to be like a friend as earlier.. so slowly i started talking with her and as the days are passing on we became very close but now she is getting married ..and now that i relised i too love her a lot but we dont want to disturb our families any more but i am unable the bear the situtation kindly advise me what to do .

She's getting married Mr. Hefner, that path way is closed. There are billions of women out there, look around for one that DOESN't have a significant other. Too many fish in the sea to waste time on one that isn't interested in you.