[NightLordV]

Hello all new to the forum here.
I have a problem here and I thought I would ask for some advice as I know how much talking to others can help.
I have known this one girl since the end of May and everything was great until about a week ago when we made it "official".
It started when we were on he phone one night and she kept cutting me off and interrupting me to talk to other people at her house. It happened about four times and after the last time she said "go ahead" and I said "no point now." she said "im sorry didn't mean to keep interrupting" and I said "well honestly thats rude and i really don't appreciate it." Now I did NOT yell or scream at her I said it calmly to show her I didn't appreciate being interrupted. She got hurt by my reaction but we talked about it the next day and everything seemed fine.
Over the weekend it was my birthday and I had a rough weekend because I had a LOT on my mind stressing me out. On Saturday night me and her were kissing and she said that my facial hair was bothering her so I said "ah ya forgot to trim it brb." she says "What? Your leaving in the middle of this?" and I said "ya won't take long." and she said "well dont kiss my ing mouth then." Just in those words. Needless to say I got offended and snapped at her telling her to not speak to me like that. She said she wasn't trying to be mean or anything but said it "jokingly". So we both get upset over it but we talked it out that night and went to bed and everything seemed to be OK.
Well Sunday and into yesterday she was more distant and cool towards me and I asked her what was up and she said she was still bothered by how I reacted over the times I snapped at her.
I went to her house today to talk to her in person since the past two days were through texts and she said that she isn't sure if she can trust me or not because it seems like I have a short temper. Now she has been in a few abusive relationships so I can see why she would be on edge but when I said "i'm not like those guys don't compair me to them." she said "Your nothing like them." So you I don't understand that one.
I finally texted her and said "i'm sorry for what happened." She said "don't be i am glad you came over it was good to see you."
I told her that I have been stressed out and didn't mean to snap at her and she texted me back and said "i don't know what I want right now please give me some time if thats not too much to ask."
So I texted her back and said "that normally doesn't mean anything good but yes I will leave u be." and that has been that since.
I know that when a girl says she needs "her space" its normally never a good thing. She hasn't said she wants to end it but I don't know.
I have no intention of contacting her in any way shape or form during this time but I don't know... is it possible she is testing me to see if I AM going to respect that space wanting to see if I do or not or could it be something more dreadful?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you!

[Torrid13]

Maybe it's just the way you wrote some of your story, but it kind of seems like your delivery of your dissatisfaction with certain things is kind of mean in and of itself. Granted, I would be peeved, too, but perhaps working on how you tell her things bother you might help in the future.

Now. The best thing you can do is do what she asks and give her space. Does this mean your relationship is doomed? Maybe, maybe not. It's a dangerous business trying to read the minds of women... and men. >.> In any case, just ride out this NC thing, and if at the end she wants to be with you, great. If not, well she might have issues she's dealing with relating to her past abusive relationships. I can only imagine what type of problems can crop up for someone because of those boogers.

Anyway, relax. What happens, happens. And please, if she doesn't want to be with you, remember it happens to everyone, and don't snap at her, okay? She seems troubled enough.

[davett]

Sorry dude, but when a girl says she needs time to think it the beginning of the end.you haven't been going out for long and if there are problems early on it won't get any better.

[NightLordV]

Maybe it's just the way you wrote some of your story, but it kind of seems like your delivery of your dissatisfaction with certain things is kind of mean in and of itself. Granted, I would be peeved, too, but perhaps working on how you tell her things bother you might help in the future.

Now. The best thing you can do is do what she asks and give her space. Does this mean your relationship is doomed? Maybe, maybe not. It's a dangerous business trying to read the minds of women...and men. >.> In any case, just ride out this NC thing, and if at the end she wants to be with you, great. If not, well she might have issues she's dealing with relating to her past abusive relationships. I can only imagine what type of problems can crop up for someone because of those boogers.

Anyway, relax. What happens, happens. And please, if she doesn't want to be with you, remember it happens to everyone, and don't snap at her, okay? She seems troubled enough.

Her silence didn't last long she texted me today asking me how I was doing and said she caught something and is sick. I texted her back saying hope she feels better and to rest up. So we will see what happens from there. Appreciate the feedback

[MsMewiththat]

Just wanted to dd here that it is possible that she is aware of the damage done from her prior relationships and wanted a "time out" if you will, to gather her self as not to transfer the past experiences to your relationship. Which is not necessarily dooms day, but an be viewed as a good thing. Take your time and communicate with her. Ask her the same questions you just asked here.

[futureiztik]

Just give her a little bit, maybe if she don't text or call you before tomorrow night try texting to see if she's okay just make sure she knows how you feel about her and that you are working on your temper I just went tru that and we got through it. Maybe it's not you she might be going through other things

[Keonison]

Give her space I was married 14yr 2 boys and my wife and I were having problems when she asked me to meet he at a local bar and she dropped it on me that she needs time for herself? Too much pressure. She moved in with her mom and took the boys but in the intern she drops them off at the house so I can have them. I needed to remember….she my wife, the cook the cleaner, the homework mom, the sex slave, the bill payor etc.. What happens will happen and then you'll know you need to move on.
Mean time clean up,… go running change your body be healthy as this will change the way you look at yourself. I did and it works great. I run every day and I never notice how women look at me because I didn't notice didn't care I have my wife, but that they were looking at me. Don't beat yourself up. But change your life.

It's funny how life works.