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mum2five · Jul 6, 2009, 05:15 AM

I was talking to an olD friend earlier online who I have not spoken too in many years , well since we left school.

We had a good old chit chat - she told me all about her move away and her partner and career and what she gets up too i.e. - hobbies and nights out.

In return I told her all about my life.

She said something that at first kind of insulted me.

This is what she said -

" Oh my god - do you not talk about anything other than your kids ? "

I looked back on the conversation and got her point. Her inputs were all about her her her and all mine were kids do this, kids do that ,kids were born, I was pregnant in year bla bla, kids love to do this and I take the kids too...

She asked me about the last 2 pregnancies as she had heard from another mutual friend I had been quite ill during both - She commented on how I must be so glad to have it all over and done with ( baby is now 10 weeks old)
I told her that I was actually missing being pregnant.

She decided that I was addicted to being a mum and I wanted to get out there and do something with my life other than devote my every living breath on my brood??

I do not do the clubbing or the designer clothing shopping as she does - I do the nappy changes and the juggling of work and the bills. Seems my life is pretty boring. I even felt a little like she was much better than me and I became quite inferior.

It was only after we had stopped chatting and I went back to the washing up and putting the washing machine on for the 3rd time today that I thought...

Actually - I love my life.
I have 5 wonderful children ages 10 - 7 - 6 - 14 months and 10 weeks who I worship - I have a fantastic supportive partner - I have a nice home ( despite the mountain of washing) I have more qualifications than her despite her working in her own office ( I am self employed and work from home and my office is the kitchen table - I do not go clubbing ( a cheap bottle of wine will do for me and as for the designer clothes shopping ( she wants to try eBay)

Am I really addictive to being a mum ?

YES I AM AND I AM PROUD TO BE !

My question is - Can you really be addictive to being a parent ?

danielnoahsmommy · Jul 6, 2009, 05:19 AM

No, you are not. She is trying to compensate for what she is missing and what you have! She is trying to make you feel bad so she can feel good!

shazamataz · Jul 6, 2009, 05:23 AM

All mothers like to talk about their kids!

You should hear me and my mother talking, all I talk about is my dogs as I do not have any children.

As long as you still have other interests then I wouldn't say it is a problem at all! Especially with someone you haven't talked to for a long time.

danielnoahsmommy · Jul 6, 2009, 05:26 AM

It very normal to talk about your children... even after you have seen her a lot. It becomes a problem if the only thing you can talk about is your children... If the only thing you think about your children and if your whole world centers around your children.

mum2five · Jul 6, 2009, 05:32 AM

I am starting to see her point the more I think about it -
Every free time I get to grab the remote I watch - Supernanny or Who rules The Roost or the pregnancy channel.
I can not go shopping with friends without treating the kids - never buy me anything
I even listen to the same music as my 10 year old by choice as I hear it day in day out I can sing along

I am even writing a novel - aimed at children
I have a degree - child psychology
I run a business selling online - kids clothes
I help out in clubs - all children related

:)

shazamataz · Jul 6, 2009, 05:45 AM

Originally Posted by mum2five

I am starting to see her point the more I think about it -
Every free time I get to grab the remote I watch - Supernanny or Who rules The Roost or the pregnancy channel.
I can not go shopping with friends without treating the kids - never buy me anything
I even listen to the same music as my 10 year old by choice as I hear it day in day out I can sing along

I am even writing a novel - aimed at children
I have a degree - child psychology
I run a business selling online - kids clothes
I help out in clubs - all children related

:)

I am making a website - about dogs
I run a business - Selling pet portraits.
I help out in clubs - Volunteer at dog shows

Any animal/dog program on TV and I have an alarm set for it.

I don't find it strange at all.
The parenting shows on television are a good thing, not a bad thing... there are way too many people out there that NEED to watch these shows and don't!

Do you have any other interests that aren't related to children?
Reading? Crafts? Etc?

jmjoseph · Jul 6, 2009, 06:06 AM

If your children mean that much to you, then that means that you are not just a regular mother. You are a great mother. If your children bring you joy, then you should enjoy them, and the time you spend with them. Don't put a label on loving your babies. Next time you tell her " yes, they're that important to me, they come first". GOD bless all the mommies in the world.