[Wondergirl]

ok guys, i have to go to bed now.. thank u all SO much for your help. i will do what u said and be back tommorrow so check the thread.. thanks so much i really mean that thank u

I'll pray for you to have courage. You can do this. And it will be so wonderful in the end!

[Steve1010]

So what do I say to her when she says why didn't u answer me last night?

[Wondergirl]

so what do i say to her when she says why didnt u answer me last night?

You don't have to answer every question. Ignore that one and wait for one you want to answer.

[BlackVY]

Good luck man... Be strong...

[Steve1010]

OK thanks good night

[talaniman]

For when you wake up-

Have the balls to tell this female your sick and tired of her BS!

[Romefalls19]

Tal, perfect response. Eventually he will get the idea and use our advice.

[Wondergirl]

Tal, perfect response. Eventually he will get the idea and use our advice.

Yeah, I was trying to be uplifting, but I see disaster looming around the bend. And the NC for 24 hrs is more for him to rethink this and to regroup than for the relationship.

[Ren6]

Steve, I hope you're still hanging in there and taking the good advice that was given to you on this thread. She needs to know that she can't control you. When you do have contact, like Wondergirl says, only respond to respectful questions. If she calls you a jerk, you must tell her that you want to be treated with respect. Tell her that you won't respond to any disrespectful comments, and tell her goodbye. You are not chasing her away... look at how many times she continued texting and calling last night after she saw that she couldn't control you into answering her!

She used every trick in the book last night... she is not about to let go of you. You must get some power in this relationship, or it will always be her pushing you away, and then pulling you back... only to push you away again.

Please come back tonight and give us an update!

Take care...

[Steve1010]

OK so here's what happened, she called this morning on my break so I answered.( to see if shed be nice) she was and I told her I want a relationship and she can't treat me crappy anymore. So after that we were texting. She then said that she didn't want to end the relationship.. she said I did. Even though she told me she didn't want one anymore. So I end it. And she flips, she's like "i never was gonna do that, u ruined it" she started telling me we can be together and she need her space, ******THEN I asked I can be the only guy, she then says I can do whatever I want. If I want to see other guys I can, I'm not yours anymore were not dating.. she then said she doesn't intend to see other guys, just telling me that she can if she wants. So I said NO WAY. She then said fine, were done.. so sadly I fought about it with her, she then says o jordan you were the best boyfriend I've ever had I want you to know that. Our relationship has just taken its course. But I still want to be more than friends.
So I said no. and now I said rethink it and she said OK I need time and space... so I don't know what happens next she hasn't texted me in an hour

[Steve1010]

By the way, before she said I just need time and space.. which was after she said were done... she said if I didn't like her terms (of her being able to see other guys when were together if she wants) ((yet she says she doesn't want to, but she can if she wants)) that I should let it go then

[Wondergirl]

ok so heres what happend, she called this morning on my break so i answered.

You weren't supposed to be in any communication with her until after 9 p.m.

[Steve1010]

I know I'm sorry, I couldn't help myself

[Wondergirl]

i know im sorry, i couldnt help myself

So we are back to Square One. Last night was a waste.

[Steve1010]

It couldn't be that bad now??

[talaniman]

Let us know what she wants you to do, since she is the one wearing the pants.

[Steve1010]

What do I do now

[Steve1010]

Do you think she said I can see other guys if I want don't tell me what to do... just to make me mad? Because she said she doesn't plan on it but she can if she wants

[Wondergirl]

do u think she said i can see other guys if i want dont tell me what to do... just to make me mad? because she said she doesnt plan on it but she can if she wants

If you are not in an exclusive relationship, she can date and you can date. Then you two are just friends, not bf-gf.

[Steve1010]

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