[lighterrr]

ya.. im going to tell her tomorrow when she calls... "if you want to see me because you just want to hang out.... please don't come." then NC

Sounds like a good plan to me an dmake sure you true to stick to it this time:)

Goodluck

[myuz]

So howd it go danny ? Did u two meet up?

[catch 22]

I'm wondering how it went too.

[lovinthetrail]

You did not really mess up... yes, she asked for space... and no, you did not respect yourself because you let her treat you like that and you just went after her... but, it appears she had already made up her mind about spending her life with you before asking you for space. y'all have been together so long! Please look up "soul ties" on the net, and study the articles . There is also a part two and another article link from there that is awesome, and will direct you in how to let go.

[ldanny]

So she called around noon.. I didn't answer, so she texted me. "I can't make it and Ill call you later."

I felt bad so I called her back and just told her "I don't think its a good idea for you to talk to me or see me until you have enough of the space you need." She said "Oh, ok." And I said, " I have to go, we will talk later sometime...." then I hung up. I kept it short and straight to the point.

I felt bad because she sounded shock and sad. BUT all of my friends are telling me I did the right thing. So I am going back to NC. If she really wants to be with me she will call me or come see me. I am done playing games, I am cutting that string she is using.

[catch 22]

That's unfortunate but sounds like you handled it well. I am supposed to talk to my ex tomorrow and will probably not be getting any good news either.

[myuz]

Good for you man. She may or may not come back its hard to tell. My ex told me yesterday that she won't call and bother me anymore but I doubt it's the end. Time will tell. I think we need to just keep to NC and take care of ourselves...

[ldanny]

Unfortunate? How so?

[Ren6]

It's not unfortunate, danny. You did the right thing. She's only playing with you. You need to show her that you're strong, you're not her puppet. She wanted space, she now has space. If she has no desire to be with you romantically, then that's it. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you did the best thing you could do.

[makapuu]

I think it's a good idea to put the brakes on relationship when one person has isn't happy. Your girlfriend has expectations for herself, and from her family. You didn't create them for her, and you shouldn't change your life to fit into them. They might not be realistic. She needs to figure that out herself.

I've had many friends that thought they had to get married right after college, or by the time they turned 30. Their goal was to get married... not to stay married. Most of them got divorced, or are having affairs now.

[ldanny]

So I spoke to her again.. she told me that she wasn't ready for anything.. just wanted to make sure we weren't on bad terms.. . eff her.. I texted her back.. "dont call or text unless its important. thanks"

[ldanny]

Totally bs. via text
ME:"Have Fun tonight. I think it would be a good idea if you don;t call or text me unless it is important. dont worry if I go anywhere ill tell you like you told me about ur trip. Take care "
HER:"That doesnt sound right. But Fine. we will just give each other space. I'm sorry if i make you feel like im jerking you around I have no intentions of hurting you. u take care too. i'll always care about u"
Me: "what doesnt sound right?"
Her: "nm be safe with everything you do. ill call you when things r better. xoxo

I called her back to say. " was that about?"
Her: "I'm getting upset, bye."

7 years of my life and this is what I get.. bs totally bs

[talaniman]

Lets be real clear here Danny, This back and forth false hope bull crap would have been done with, if you had really done NC in the first place, and not the watered down version, where every time she Pi$$es you off you holler NC, and then go right back to talking to her.

In my day we called it half-stepping, and it doesn't work!! Either do as you say your going to do, or quit telling people what your going to do.

You come off as a person who can be manipulated, and controlled, by false hope.

[ldanny]

Yes.. I know.. just that somewhere inside, I was hoping that it would work... its like the feeling, if you don't try then you will never know kind of thing. The "hope" part of false hope, is probably the reason why I keep messing up. I know what I need to do, I just need to stick to it. I am going to block her number so hopefully that will help me more.

Sorry for being so back and forth, but this isn't easy no matter how much I tell myself I'm going to be strong. But I appreciate the support.

[ajGambino]

yes.. i know.. just that somewhere inside, I was hoping that it would work... its like the feeling, if you don't try then you will never know kind of thing. The "hope" part of false hope, is probably the reason why I keep messing up. I know what I need to do, I just need to stick to it. I am going to block her number so hopefully that will help me more.

Sorry for being so back and forth, but this isn't easy no matter how much I tell myself im going to be strong. But I appreciate the support.

There will always be feelings of the 'what if' thoughts and the 'hope' that you guys will get back together. Right now, you're all over the place with your thoughts. I know it's hard man, seven years is a really long time... but what's holding you back, is YOU. Leave her alone and when you say you're going to block her number, block it and let it be done.

Listen Danny, my girlfriend of nine years left me... with a lousy goodbye. I'd say that was the most difficult thing I've ever had to deal with. Watch her walk out that door, without giving a damn about me and what she was leaving. You think I didn't want to call her, text her, email her for expressing how desperate I was? I went NC April 21st and have been ever since. It was the hardest thing I've ever done and continues to be. But over a month of NC, my thoughts, doubts and fears became a little easier to deal with. I have a new sense and perspective towards my feelings towards my ex. It will get easier, you will move forward. You just have to make the decision for yourself and go NC and stick to it.

Push yourself man, it's a day struggle.. but everyday will get a little easier. It's time to move on with your life man, don't waste it on someone who messes around with your feelings.

[myuz]

Has she tried to contact u at all ajgamino?

[ajGambino]

has she tried to contact u at all ajgamino?

Twice since. Once for sure, but then a "blocked" number called me about two days ago. She's the only one that does that on my phone, so I'm not sure if it was her or not. Either way, I didn't answer them. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to resist.

.. but I did resist, I need to worry about myself now.

[chuff]

I tell myself im going to be strong.

Do not quit telling yourself that. Never. She's playing games with you and you are strong enough to see it. That's a start. Take every positive you can at this point because they are yours.

[ldanny]

Update: so I blocked her number and text and Facebook... NC and was going strong.. And out of nowhere, she calls the house... and my mom KNOWS I don't want to talk to her, and still tells her I'm at home.. and hands me the phone.. sigh... just can't get away..

[Romefalls19]

Yes you can! Last time I checked, those phone have a hang up button, so next time simply press it


And I'm out