[hhhsq]

Well, I am in love with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend. What do I do? When she is with me I never hear her talk about her boyfriend in a good way, but when she talks about him to our other friends she talks about having kids with him. There is a huge amount of sexual tension between the two of us. We flirt all the time. I feel as though we would be together if it were not for him. What's more, she is in a long distance relationship with the man. They only see each other tree months or so a year. What should I do?

[jeremy 1996]

U shoulod ask her out

[BlackVY]

Right now, you should not do anything about your feelings for her.

She is with someone else and you have no right to break them up.

If she wants to be with you, if she feels the way you feel about her, then she will leave this man she is with and then you can ask her out, but if she is telling your friends she is thinking of having kids with that guy, then I don't think she is going to leave him anytime soon.

Sorry, but its best you just keep your friendship with her and not mess that up. If you care for her, you have to let her make her own decisions and be happy for her with whoever she chooses to be with.

[Gemini54]

Well if she's your BEST friend, you should know how she feels about him. I don't think it's fair to jump on her bones until you're sure of what the situation is between them. How would you feel if you were him? Perhaps she's flirting with you because she feels safe and you're misinterpreting it. Then perhaps not. I'd ask some of her other friends what they think, talk to her about him (to see what she's feeling) and then take it from there. But take it slowly.

[none12345]

u shoulod ask her out

Jeremy I don't agree. I know people argue that if you don't you ll regret it for the rest of your life but that isn't fair for her and the other guy.

Leave her alone!! Don't be the man that breaks a relationship or get between it. It isn't fair for both of them, for her having to make a decision and for him, being there for her all this time and working so hard for their relationship.

[ISneezeFunny]

u shoulod ask her out

I completely disagree.

No matter who she may be, true love, whatnot, she is in a relationship. Whether her relationship is in shambles (which you may think), it's not your call to make whether she should be with him.

Perhaps she is complaining to you about the boyfriend because she considers you a friend... but she's obviously with him because she still wants to be with him.

If you do ask her out, then one of two things happens:

1. She says OK. She dumps the boyfriend, but she gets with you. But you'll always be the guy who broke them up. Also, she may come to the realization later on that you broke them up and she may not be too happy about that.

2. She says no. Your friendship with her may be changed entirely from then on.

I suggest you wait... and see what happens.

[talaniman]

Just be a friend, and deal with your feelings. You do need a life of your own you know, that's probably the problem.

Is that all you have is a best friend? Don't you have something else to do besides listen to her business?

[I wish]

You shouldn't be doing anything other than being her friend.

If you make a move, you become the guy that she cheats with.

Forget about interpreting the signs about whether she likes her boyfriend or not. The fact remains that she's still with him and there's a reason she's still with him. Don't read between the lines and twist her signs into a way where you think that she likes you.

If you can't put up with it, then keep your distance from her so that you won't have to overanalyze every little detail.

If you really like her that much, just be patient. If she breaks up with her boyfriend, recovers, then you can make a move.

[loverboy11]

Just tell her to give u a chance and see her when nobody else is around like if her friends are around don't do anything couples do