[Butterflyjess]

I've been with my boyfriend a while now. We kiss, hold hands(blah blah blah) all is good. But we haven't been able to get closer and really become a couple.
We are close of course. Like we are good friends as well as an item.
But I just don't feel completley sure about it. I don't know if he returns the same amount of feelings.
I no he loves me but he is awfully shy and tends to not want to talk about emotional things and this is hard because I want to be able to talk to him about anything and everything. It's there I no, he is easy to talk to about anything... but won't admit feelings, or if he's unhappy about something etc. I just want to be able to get him to open up a little more and let his guard down. I love him and I want to be closer to him.
Can you give me some ideas on what I could do to help the situation?
Thankyouu:)

[lovehim]

Hey butterfly! U shouldn't rush this. For now you should just enjoy what u 2 have now because the beginning is the best part of any relationship. When he'll start talking about his problems there'll be a lot less kissing and holding hands. Just let things go naturally. Don't give him more than he gives you but still don't hold back too much. You need to find the balance there.
On the other hand, maybe this is just the way that he is, you know closed and reserved. Even if he is you will be able to gain his trust and maybe he won't share as much as you want him to but that's better than nothing. The most important thing you should remember is that you can't change him and if you try to you will loose him. u'll get as close to him as he allows you to and you can't change that. Sorry if a freaked you out with the worst case scenario!
Anyway I don't think that's the case with u 2. just let time do its job and everything will come to its place. Hope I helped!

[talaniman]

Slow down, and let him be himself, so I guess you should rein in your enthusiasm a bit, and enjoy what is, and see what happens. You can't rush someone into something they aren't ready for, just because that's what you want. Appreciate what you have.

[nikosmom]

You say you've been together for a while... what's "a while"?

It could be that he's just not the type of person who is comfortable expressing his feelings. Some people don't like talking about their feelings.

Relax and let the relationship grow naturally. In due time, he will share what he's comfortable sharing. Unless you have reason to think he's hiding something, just go with the flow.

[artlady]

I would repeat what you have said here.You made your point and you are not demanding anything.

Let him know how you feel and understand that not everyone is open and even in touch with their feelings.

Be patient and show him how it is done by setting a good example.