[soniagak]

I'm 22 yrs old female and still living with my parents because I have no choice, I'm from a Muslim from Afghanistan and you stay with your family until you are married and then you go to your husband's house after marriage.
My parents favour their sons more than the daughters my mom has told me several times that she loves my brothers more than she loves me. We are not allowed to date but I made a mistake and I dated this guy when my mom found out she told me brother and he beat me and almost killed me but I never told anyone. I pay 600$ to them every month but I make around 3000$ every month and I don't spend a lot so I save up my money and my family knows this. When they need money and they ask me for it usually I don't give it to them because in the past I have lend them money and never got it back and I believe that they make the same amount of money or more but they spend their money on stuff that I try to stay away from like expensive cloths or new technology so I'm like I'm not living the best life and saving money for my future and they should do the same but they don't.
Anyway I could go on about that, I'm engaged now and my fiancé is in afghanistan and I have saved up money for my wedding but now my brother wants to buy a house and he wants to use my money for down payment saying he will return it. I mean if all these yrs he wasn't able to save money how is he going to do it in a few months. So I said no as I need the money for myself and my mom and dad started yelling at me saying I'm selfish and I only care about myself and that I should go get my own place. (if I do that, they will blame me for that as well) I just want to get away from them so I pretty much want to go to afghanistan and never come back but life is so hard there and its also not safe. I really don't know what to do. I hate my life, I hate my family

[JoeCanada76]

* It is your money. You do what you want with it.

* You have enough money saved up and work? So you can get out if you want.

* It is hard to answer cultural questions because things are so different in every culture.

* Just know that verbal, emotional and physical abuse against you is wrong.