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    Julia_T Posts: 16, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 29, 2008, 04:18 PM

    Thanks everyone! I know my mind is playing tricks on me as he did cheat on me after 3 months of us being together! Lol it was a weird situation though and I forgave him.. he's not perfect I guess but I do tend to remember only the good and need to adjust my way of thinking..

    I get like this though I'm really blind when I'm into a person.. another ex of mine was a real bastard to me and I stayed with him for a year! Now that I'm over it I can see that it wasn't right but back then I was so in love that I wantd to make it work.. Maybe that's why as well, when this new one came along and was sooo nice in the beginning it was a new experience for me... I think overall I haven't been very lucky in love lol.

    Do you guys believe in Karma? My first boyfriend was sooo nice and in love with me we were together for a very long time and were supposed to get married but I broke it off because I fell out of love with him and wanted to 'experience new things in life'.. Ever since then my love life has been crap! Well guess I got what I wanted.. but I'm not going to give up hope I'm sure there must be some guy out there for me right.. I mean there's millions of people out there. I just need to open my mind up and move on from this ex.
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    Dec 31, 2008, 02:25 AM
    Don't beat yourself down about leaving your first boyfriend to see what was out there, that's actually very common in a lot of young women. You just have to keep looking, there are a lot of jerks out there, and you just have to sift through them, and if your persistent then you will eventually stumble across a good loving kind man :)
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    Dec 31, 2008, 07:12 AM

    Guys like me are afraid of commitment... He will realize that it was silly... He wants you but he just doesn`t know that yet
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    Jan 3, 2009, 01:17 PM

    So what do I do in the meantime? Just give up.. We hooked up on new years again! But it was more than that he was treating me like his girlfriend all night.. holding my hand, dancing with me, buying me drinks, getting bit jealous if other guys talk to me etc

    I can see that he does like me.. But yeah I suppose if I keep hanging around he will never realise that he wants to be with me..

    Soo my plan now is to stop talking to him.. I'm going to stop going out for a few weeks and not talk or see him. This is also for my own sanity because I can't keep things the way they are anymore.. New year, new start and all that.

    Maybe this will make him realise what he actually wants? But I'm scared that he will just move on and forget about me if he doesn't see me around! But I suppose if he really does want me then this will not be the case right so hopefully things will work out!
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    Jan 3, 2009, 01:59 PM

    Sorry he is not going to change. He was perfectly honest with you and said he couldn't commit to anyone. He has been with a lot of girls before you, as you said. He just wants sex, and that is it. You have a great sex relationship, and he knows he doesn't have to work for it. By giving into him, your making it easy for him, there is no challenge. But a guy like that, I think he doesn't care, he has made it very clear.. I would look elsewhere, someone who can love you, for what you are. Sorry, but I think its not going to go anywhere.. Good luck,
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    Jan 3, 2009, 04:50 PM

    Your plan now should be building a life on your own, without him in it.

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