[victoriapa]

Well, I broke the no contact with my ex (which I had only been doing for 5 days) - some beers were involved which is probably why I did it. I text him saying I still loved him and that I wanted to try to work things out. He replied "cant talk about it right now. Give me a little time. TTYS"

The last time we spoke he told me he thought he gave up on us too soon and missed me. No mention of working things out though.

The break up was really awful - cheating involved. (please read my other thread if you want more info... its pretty long) But I honestly still love him and think we still have a chance and could move past what has happened. And I don't think he is the type of person who would cheat, he has really been upset about it.

He has a new girlfriend who is living with him and that is probably why he said he can't talk about it now.

Am I just pathetic and trying to hang on to something that isn't there or does it sound like he really wants to talk it out? Has anyone else had a successful "reunion" with an ex after a break up and cheating?

[JohnD212]

You aren't pathetic but you are holding on. 5 days for NC really isn't long enough and breaking it put you back where you were when you started... he knows you are still out there wanting him... it gives him the power and the time to just sit there and make you wait. I've been in a similar situation. Trust me... if he really does love you... no contact will help you both. He needs to be the one to tell you that... not the other way around.

Go no contact and let him go. He wouldn't have another girlfriend if he wanted to be with you again. I know its hard... but NC is all that will help you move on.

[wolfgangqpublic]

I'm not going to say you're pathetic, you're not. But I can say with certainty that if you looked at your post a few months from now, based on what your know and the circumstances, you'll be embarrassed that you're trying to hang onto this.

[neverme]

Hey Victoriapa,

I don't think your pathetic at all, you're going through the hardest part of a break up and it's never easy. I think however that you should put your hands above your head, and run, screaming 'NO! ' from this situation. This man has seriously disrespected who you are, your relationship and all that you gave to it. This behaviour is unacceptable. Period.

But if you did think that you could get over all that has gone on in your relationship do you think this amount of effort is enough? You are worth much more than this and you are the only one who can set the standards you deserve. If you accept this behaviour you WILL regret it. Take if from a woman that has allowed herself to be treated badly. It hurts much more to let yourself down than it does to have someone let you down.

Even if you were to act on this would you ever really be able to trust him again considering how much he has played your emotions and gone behind your back?

Hope this helps.

[08 nobody]

I was what 7 days... but my ? Is what if you have a child together.. I have to contact.. but I know that hurts though... I call my ex and asked about our child and she told me she was going out.. I didn't ask where but.. I kind of know who it's with... I hate my life

[talaniman]

Take a hint, and learn from your mistakes, and don't repeat them. Leave the ex alone. Avoid the false hope, as what done is done.