[confusedperson]

Hello,

I'm from Canada. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now. She is my first girlfriend, though she has been with many many other guys. I love hear to death, but sometimes I wonder, what if I spend the rest of my life with her, I will only be with one girl. It bothers me that she has been with so many other guys. She has had the chance to be with other people and I have not. Sometimes I feel like I have to even out the score, but I love her so much, and we both want to spend the rest of our lives together. I have never thought of cheating before, but would sleeping with a couple people just to see what else is out there and never speak about it be OK?

Thank You

[talaniman]

Just me, cheating is NEVER a good option for any reason. While it may be normal to wonder what else is out there, and what you may have missed, acting on those feelings is not acceptable, and will open a can of worms, that will cost you everything you hold close to you.

I also think your having those feelings because you know your girlfriend is more experienced than you are, and your making plans for the future, that has you wondering, and maybe a little fearful, about being ready for that kind of commitment.

I can only tell you that its normal to be wary after only a year, and be patient, as this is still a very young relationship, and you really don't have to make that decision yet, as your not fully sold on the idea, despite those intense feelings of attraction you have for your girl. Those nagging doubts will be there until you decide if that's what you want, or not.

I think it best right now to focus on the relationship your in, and see how the working together, through honest communications goes.

Its only been a year, if you stay within the boundaries of good behavior, you can grow and learn with your partner, even though you might be curious if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but the bottom line is, to tend what you have on your side of the fence, and not be distracted, by what you think your missing.

Its all about patience, and focus, and being honest with your partner, then you'll either grow together, or apart.