[Modverve]

We've been dating for about 5 months now and the both of them split say, in what, Feb? They split because she fell for me in between their relationship. But she keeps giving me signs and signals that she thinks about him quite abit. She mentions his name a lot, brings up his email(? ), tells me about the sweet stuff he used to do for her etc. She probably thinks nothing of it but its getting on my nerves. I admit I am a jealous guy. What should I do? I know talking things out would be the thing to do but we aren't close enough to have "talk" talks. I don't know. Any suggestions? :confused:

[ZoeMarie]

I see a couple red flags

1. she talks about her ex all the time- obviously if you've posted about it

2. you aren't close enough to talk about it.


You can wait until you think you're close enough to talk or you could talk to her now. Worst case scenario is that you're right and she's not over her ex. Better to find out now than later.

[kitten420]

You need to talk to her about it and see what's going through her head. You have been together for 5 months she should feel comfy to talk to you about anything. Why don't you just tell her that you don't apperciate her talking about her ex all the time and she acts as if she isn't over him. Annnd see how it goes from there. But watch for the signs. If she acts as if she don't want to talk about it... can't look you in the eyes when she says she is over her ex... ect. Then most likley she isn't over him. Believe me this has happened to me. I used to talk about my ex all the time to one of my previous boyfriends and he never seen it coming. Then as soon as my ex ask me back in his life I left that guy faster then you could say spagetti. Then of course I got my heart broken again and then it took me 2 years before I could actually get over my ex. Finally I moved on and I met a wonderful man and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Number one you cannot make her get over her ex she has to do it all on her own so do not make her do something you cannot do. If she tells you she isn't over her ex I would advise you break up with her before she leaves you for him. Tell her that your not going to be with someone that isn't completely yours and who you can fully have to yourself because their heart still wants another person. Tell her that when she decides she is over her ex and when she fully wants YOU and YOU only then she can come back. BUT until then she has a lot of thinking she has to do. I hope this helps!