[De4rest]

I don't know why but sometimes I told a story to my friend let say about another friend of mine. I told my friend honestly about everything... how it happened exactly and how I felt. But then, I feel bad about it because I feel that I am not supposed to talk bad about other people but that's how I really feel and how it happened.. about what they said or did to me that particular time. THen, after telling the story to my friend, I will tell them again I am not saying that "this person" is bad whatsoever.. then I will ask my friend whether she/he will believe it if the person tell them about the same story as well. Then, I will regret it because I feel so stupid.. I will start thinking I should have just keep it the first way without asking them questions like that... then maybe they would believe me and not questioning my honesty... I don't know what to do because I kept coming back and forth thinking oohhh maybe I should have just said this not that.. done this not that.. I don't know I just keep on being paranoid by my own actions and words.. I don't know what to do.. I dun like being or feeling like this.. I am afraid now that my friend would not believe my story and would perceive me badly...

[Clough]

Hi, De4rest!

It usually is not good to be speaking poorly about someone else to other people. Word does get around as to what people say about other people.

However, if something someone else has said or done to you is making you feel bad, then you might feel the need to talk to a close friend about what was said or done to you in order for you to sort things out and feel better about yourself.

If you are feeling guilty about what you said in the first place, then I would suggest trusting your gut instinct not to be saying things about others if saying things about others isn't going to arrive at any benefit for anyone by you saying things.

Some things are better to be left unsaid...

[De4rest]

True some things are better left unsaid... I just get too carried on in the situation... I was telling my friend about my breakup how my ex did me wrong but somehow I feel bad after. It happened already and I cannot change that fact.What should I do now??

[Choux]

You talking bad stuff behind someone's back you had a relationship with is you seeking revenge.

Don't do that.

Most people don't understand that real life is us putting up with other people's foibles and they PUTTING UP WITH OURS on a daily basis.

There is no reason to hold resentments except for an overblown ego.

Good luck in the future, :)