[Saures]

I have been reading a lot of these boyfriend and porn posts. And my boyfriend watches porn and I care.
I am not the best of looking girls, of course he thought I was good enough for him.
I have watched porn with my friends as a joke to try it see what it was like and I couldn't help but notice the girls. I know a lot of people say they have been airbrushed, positioned and all of that but you still notice, even if they have been airbrushed, that they are always a lot better looking then you, their boobs will always be bigger then yours. It does, unless you have no problem with porn, make you feel ugly, it personaly makes me feel self-concious about having sex with my boyfriend because he jacks off to those girls, weither its those girls getting aroused or just the arousing part. Every time my boyfriend likes to talk dirty to me he always brings up the word porn. Even if we're on MSN, he will bring up the word porn when I am telling him things. I didn't tell him how I felt about him watching porn and the way it made me feel but I told him that I don't want him watching porn. So he stopped. He was a totally different person, a lot more talkative always cracking up jokes and he always wanted to hold me, all the time. Then I said he could watch porn, which was a stupid thing to do. If I was on MSN, he wouldn't talk as much. He would always go 'Okay' 'Yeah' instead of getting involved with what I had to say. He was watching porn. We had an argument on MSN the other day really late at night.
'I have no pornz.' He said.
'Good'
'What?'
'I don't like you watching porn'
'Why? I will stop again for you'
'Don't stop because I want you to stop because you want to'
I was kind of happy with what I had said but I still think straight when he gets home he will watch, even the slightest bit of porn.
It makes me feel sad, ugly, unwanted and not goodenough and I don't think half the men who watch it understand that enough.
When you have a girlfriend you don't need porn you have her, not some stupid little fantasy that you dreamt up over some slutty girl that does it for money when you have somebody at home who loves and cares for you. Surely that's better then a girl you will never have nor get a chance with?
:D

[Xrayman]

Sometimes guys just don't care about the "touchy feely" way that you might want them to.

We would have to go into a total dissertation on the psychology differences between the sexes to get a good grasp as to why men are excited by porn while their women are not, which I'm not about to do.

Sometimes "LOVE" just doesn't enter the brain when you just want to SEE some good raunchy sex.

I don't necessarily agree with porn myself, but I can see why sometimes it's just "easier" and without complication.

Oh and sometimes we just like to see slutty and unbridled, dirty sex, sorry. Its just the way things are .

[Clough]

Hi, Saures!

I'm glad that you've made some progress with your boyfriend concerning porn. This is a good thing! I would suggest keeping up the dialogue, hopefully in-person and not electronically, with him about your honest feelings about how him viewing it makes you feel about you and about your relationship with him.

It does sound like he cares about your feelings, but my gut feeling is, that more in-person dialogue is needed here.

[Choux]

Porn is staged, fake, fantasy, acted, set-up, phony, unemotional, sterile depictions of sexual acts. They are marketed to men so men can have quick ejaculations via masturbation. The pornographers make a heck of a lot of money for this product.

Men like pornography.

I think because it is uncomplicated and easy and bursts through all the boundaries. :)

[flickka]

I honestly don't think this has anything to do with porn, at least, not as much as it does about yourself esteem. You keep reiterating how "ugly" it makes you feel to see these beautiful women in these tapes. I think that's something you need to work on: yourself esteem. Another thing is that your boyfriend is obsessed with pornography. Reading your post, it sounds to me as if he can't live without it: he feels the need to bring it up every three seconds, and he's constantly distracted with it, even while conversing with you. That's an obsession!
Watching porn can be a very stimulating, very exciting thing when you do so with your partner. You learn different techniques and ways to pleasure each other. You should focus more on the act and less on how breathtakingly gorgeous some of the women are. If you can manage to do these things, porn is a beautiful thing! I watch it with my boyfriend sometimes, and we sometimes critique what we see but most importantly, we eagerly try the techniques for our own pleasure and satisfaction.

[smoothy]

Guys are visual... we are genetically wired that way.

Never compare yourself to porn stars. We don't.

[Sights]

Hi, Saures!
.. At the risk of being blunt, how's your and his sex life going?
.. Is it as passionate as it could or should be?
.. Do you turn him down often or is he asking for more than you want to give?
.. Most men think about having sex multiple times a day and think they would be in heaven with a girl that fulfilled that fantasy.
.. 90% of those men just want it when ever they want it, but after a week or two of their "dream come true" sex life their the ones wanting to take, a break, or a night off.
.. If he is willing to quit watching porn for you, you know he loves you and you should just talk to him and tell him the way you feel!
.. Ask him what he likes about the porn and maybe do some roll playing.
.. I think you'll both get something you want and be a lot happier!

Good luck